I have a question, please help

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Hi I'm new to writing, iv read a couple posts, but haven't really found any answers to my questions, so I hope someone can help me

I'm an NT girl and iv kinda been seeing an aspie guy for 5 months, though we have been friends since we were kids, so even though we decided not to be exclusive, I asked him not to tell me about other girls he met, and I wouldn't tell him about guys I met, he completely disregarded this request, on top of that, he will occasionally say hurtful things, then when I point it out, he doesnt understand why I'm hurt, or will act like nothing happened

So my question is: is this a aspie behaviour/ symptom, or is this just his personality.

I hope I made everything clear, and thank you in advance if your able to help in anyway

Saying hurtful things and not understanding why is fairly common in Aspies, AFAIK(I don't like to give definites in these matters, since I only know about myself for sure), but I have to wonder, if hearing about other girls he's with bothers you...why don't you make your relationship exclusive?

Here's how you tell the behaviors apart: You tell him, straight up, that something he said or did offended you. Especially if its something you talked about offending you before.

If he expresses some kind of shock and/or remorse about it: aspie

If he doesn't really care: douchebag (okay, could still be aspie too, but anyone, regardless of spectrum status, that doesn't care to change his behaviors in a relationship is being a douchebag...)

I dont know why you want to date someone openly if it bothers you he is seeing other people. I advise you to kick him to the curb and find someone who will be exclusive.