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Besides having AS another issue I have is that i am just well ordinary looking at the moment. i have brown hair and brown eyes (not very exciting). I was handsome when i was 16 and 18 but i have gone a bit stale at the moment and i am not looking the best i have done

Having AS and looking plain is not a good combo because wherever i go out girls just don't notice me and like a lot of average men i am 'invisible' to girls. To be honest as well that i have so much anger and fustration on the inside that when girls rarely approach me they give me a 'neutural' and cold look like they can tell that i am threatening. In the past my looks would help me arouse interest and have girls approach and talk to me but that does not happen anymore. i try my best to keep my thick hair looking good and dress smartly but it does not always help.

this is so dissapointing becuase i was such a lovely 16 year old and now i have turned into a horrible menacing person.

how can i get better again and become attractive to girls like i used to be? I am nowhere near as popular with my friends as i used to be either.

As the old saying goes "You gotta go through the hard times to appreciate the good".

This happened to my NT husband after he divorced. I shake my head looking at pictures of him from that time. Sad! He began looking at what other men were wearing, including facial hair and hair styles, and looked through some of the men magazines for the same. Then he experimented to see what updated look fit in with who he is and looked good on him. Not only did he update himself back into being attractive, but he also gained confidence, which adds more allure to someone. Like ZZTop says, every girl's crazy for a sharp dressed man.

I look like Keanu Reeves so that can only be a good thing right????

I wouldn't call him 'plain'

I think you should focus on what you were describing before; your vibe. If you stop giving off that hostile thing, then you can let your 'keanu' looks do their magic.

I am just going through a lot of depression at the moment so girls will not be attracted to that either

Keanu Reeves has aspergers.

True. What are you doing about your depression?

Just trying to dive into hobbies like music and seeing my friends.

Tonight i have had quite a bad night because i have been arguing with my parents yet again so i feel depressed cause of that

It's tough, but if you can learn to take friction less personally, just let it go through you. What do you guys usually argue about?

Have you ever been to see a doctor, or had any counselling/therapy?

If there's a meditation class near where you are, I highly recommend that.

Yoga (for meditation) is a great place to meet women. You could kill two birds with one stone, if you'll forgive the oddly violent metaphor.

Keanu is adorable, by the way. Rock that Keanu vibe!

I find laughter is a good form of medicine

when times are tough its kinda hard to find the humour in things

Very good thing.

Jamesy, Dress like a Klingon warrior and roll up on a Harley Davidson.

I guarantee the girls will notice you.

I would.

Well having great hair and even being in shape does not seem to be working for me

my dad described me as having a blank personality.