Really anoying Situation

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sorry if I sound abit backward while typing this (very tired, slugish, fatigued etc.)

My problem is with the female type human. I am pritty amazing when it comes to saying/doing the wrong thing. Or so I am guessing.

F/ck it what I am saying is when it comes to keeping relationships, talking and going on dates etc I dont have a fecking clue, I don't know what to say or what is apropriate, and it pisses me off.

for instance, I was talking to this lass, and she gave me her number I stayed around for abit and just chatted to her for awhile, anyway rang her today and she never picked up her phone. This always happen to me and I dont know why.

maybe you need to make her feel appreciated with some complimentary flirting. this is a good book in most shops

I might not have phrased it in exactly that way, but me, too.

i suppose i do know what to say in these situations (or at least i know what would be "the right thing" to say, according to advice i've had from friends). the problem is that i've always frozen up at the critical moment and bitterly regreted it.

basically its interests, hobbies, work, family. those are the subjects. only problem is the body language which counts about 5 times more than the actual words.

yep i know its frustrating! i'm certainly put in the effort into chaning the way i interact. its paid off to some degree! it would be great to think there was some "mentor" or someone to help (nice thought)

oh i think can spot one classic mistake... did you phone the day afterwards?

no no! always respect the three day rule. oh and text rather than call.

as a general rule of thumb, delay the impulse to a tempation (of calling her for example) by about 2-3 days.

How do you know she wasn't busy?

"basically its interests, hobbies, work, family. those are the subjects"

no you give them nice compliments tell them you like them and flirt with them hinting at finding them sexy and wanting sex with them. boring them with interests, hobbies work and family is the aspie's mistake.

For me, complimenting and that crap is extremely easy, but upholding a conversation is difficult.

Half the time people don't bother answering their phones, text them.

BAH HUMBUG! Might be easier to get an imaginary friend lol

That's where your mistake was. In the vast majority of cases, you need to make a quick, graceful exit after you get the phone number. So once she gives you the number one way or another, say something like "I'll give you call" or "let's talk in the next few days", close the conversation, and walk away. Lingering around after you get the phone number only hurts your chances, because you run a risk of saying something that'll lower the girl's interest in you.