TheHaywire wrote:
Anyone else get stuck in one of those horrible marriages? My ex-husband was reported to the state for keeping me in extreme fear & isolation, taking complete control of my life and finances, letting me sit in an almost-coma if I wouldn't have degrading sex with him, etc. I'm an independent thinker and active feminist but this was a sociopathic predator who appealed to my extreme focuses to convince me that we were in love. I managed to leave him and got out alive despite my physical and neurological limitations. Feeling better than ever now actually. It was like being locked inside a prison. I'm free!
My mom is quite like my ex-husband in a way. The abuse of caretakers can be so frightening. The scariest part is that they can always say "don't listen to them because they are crazy." Since these abusive "caretakers" come off as more rational and level-headed than us they are usually able to convince people that we are making up the abuse.
I heard a scary story once about a dependent elderly woman who had her entire life and identity stolen by her supposed caretaker. The caretaker took all of her money and possessions while forging documents to obtain her credit cards. Then the caretaker told the elderly woman's family that she was dead as they continued to take every last bit from her.
How can a disabled or elderly person recognize that they are in an abusive relationship before it's too late? I want to make sure nobody else has to go through what I did.
I feel for you. My mother was a nasty evil fat c**t like that too.
23 Jun 2011, 2:57 am
