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21 Jun 2011, 3:12 pm

The online dating world might seem like a nice place, and then you'll discover that men frequently outnumber women by as much as 50% on some of the more popular dating sites. In a male dominated anime club or star trek convention, your odds just get worse. So, where to go?

Try taking up Yoga, or joining a book club. You could spend more time in church or start helping with a non-profit. Take up jogging at a local park, and see if anyone wants to talk as you go on your morning jog. In any of these activities there might be fewer women, and they're more likely to be unavailable, but the key difference is the number of competitors.

When you're a cute guy in Yoga class, some of the women WILL stare. :wink:



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21 Jun 2011, 3:17 pm

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gFyV29AZdjY&feature=related[/youtube]



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21 Jun 2011, 3:20 pm

That song is terrible, but it was so apt. :lol:


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21 Jun 2011, 3:22 pm

sorry teapot... i can't help but know some grime with my background



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21 Jun 2011, 3:34 pm

MathbyIntuition wrote:
The online dating world might seem like a nice place, and then you'll discover that men frequently outnumber women by as much as 50% on some of the more popular dating sites. In a male dominated anime club or star trek convention, your odds just get worse. So, where to go?

Try taking up Yoga, or joining a book club. You could spend more time in church or start helping with a non-profit. Take up jogging at a local park, and see if anyone wants to talk as you go on your morning jog. In any of these activities there might be fewer women, and they're more likely to be unavailable, but the key difference is the number of competitors.

When you're a cute guy in Yoga class, some of the women WILL stare. :wink:


Yeah, but I might get accused of being an omega male, and having female friends... :wink:

No, I'm just being daft, I think it's a well good idea.


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21 Jun 2011, 3:40 pm

OP, i agree.

also cooking classes or dance classes or art classes (or really 90% of continuing education classes for adults) etc.


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21 Jun 2011, 3:42 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:
sorry teapot... i can't help but know some grime with my background


Wow, only one person has ever called me teapot before. 8O

Don't worry... I know some s**t music too.


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21 Jun 2011, 3:45 pm

is this bordering on that pua shiz?

its on my brain. ever since you guys wouldnt shut-up about it i've been getting pua adverts everywhere i go :x

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Wow, only one person has ever called me teapot before. 8O


was it me?



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21 Jun 2011, 3:50 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Wow, only one person has ever called me teapot before. 8O


was it me?


No. Someone on another site a year ago. I've used this name a couple of places over a 10 year span. lol


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21 Jun 2011, 3:52 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Wow, only one person has ever called me teapot before. 8O


was it me?


No. Someone on another site a year ago. I've used this name a couple of places over a 10 year span. lol


you sure it was me :wink:
i call my niece teapot. you'll always be teabag to me



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21 Jun 2011, 3:53 pm

Point is, if you do anything overt, you'll instantly be recognised as the creepy one.

So, I'd suggest to do something that you already have an interest in but be truly focused on doing that rather than thinking about sex and/or the other women while you do it. Don't even think about anyone else while you do it, because you'll make the other women uncomfortable.



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21 Jun 2011, 4:14 pm

Tequila wrote:
Point is, if you do anything overt, you'll instantly be recognised as the creepy one.

So, I'd suggest to do something that you already have an interest in but be truly focused on doing that rather than thinking about sex and/or the other women while you do it. Don't even think about anyone else while you do it, because you'll make the other women uncomfortable.

yes, i wouldn't recommend that a person should sign up for anything that they are not interested in. it will backfire if a person joins a club or class or activity that they really don't care about. but i really really think that people could really benefit from cracking out of their comfort zones.


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21 Jun 2011, 4:16 pm

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Point is, if you do anything overt, you'll instantly be recognised as the creepy one.

So, I'd suggest to do something that you already have an interest in but be truly focused on doing that rather than thinking about sex and/or the other women while you do it. Don't even think about anyone else while you do it, because you'll make the other women uncomfortable.

yes, i wouldn't recommend that a person should sign up for anything that they are not interested in. it will backfire if a person joins a club or class or activity that they really don't care about. but i really really think that people could really benefit from cracking out of their comfort zones.


One can take an interest, try things out. Who knows Tequila, maybe knitting might be your calling


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21 Jun 2011, 4:19 pm

Moog wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Tequila wrote:
Point is, if you do anything overt, you'll instantly be recognised as the creepy one.

So, I'd suggest to do something that you already have an interest in but be truly focused on doing that rather than thinking about sex and/or the other women while you do it. Don't even think about anyone else while you do it, because you'll make the other women uncomfortable.

yes, i wouldn't recommend that a person should sign up for anything that they are not interested in. it will backfire if a person joins a club or class or activity that they really don't care about. but i really really think that people could really benefit from cracking out of their comfort zones.


One can take an interest, try things out. Who knows Tequila, maybe knitting might be your calling

exactly, why not try something out? i can't really find a negative aspect in that.

though... if a person hates cooking then maybe a cooking class would be silly.... BUT THEN maybe they would come to love cooking? i dunno, i guess i am a big fan of "getting out there and doing stuff", so it seems like a positive all around.


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21 Jun 2011, 4:22 pm

Don't know bout y'all but I can write a lot of things off improperly and talk myself out of almost anything and not give things a go...


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21 Jun 2011, 4:29 pm

I don't want to have women (or anyone) staring at me while I do yoga.

They can stare while I do Nia, but in neither instance did any make an effort to talk to me. I didn't see any cuter guys in either instance, and my efforts to engage people met with little success. I wish your advice had utility in my world, but I agree with Tequila and Hyperlexian. Take the class for the sake of your interest, and break out of your comfort zone. The increased confidence did make me sexier, in time.

Y'know, Moog, just the other day I thought of a project that I could finish if I learned to crochet... Hmmm...


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