Mr. no text back has texted back.

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Not exactly sure what to do about it, not sure how I feel about things now......I'll probably text him back in a while, and see what he says and go from there. But yeah, this was unexpected I had already accepted he must have moved on so its a bit awkward....not to mention if I am indeed asexual like I've been thinking could be the case, what am I going to say about that? But at the same time I really was enjoying hanging out with this guy....so yeah I guess I'm stressing a little.

Without knowing any background about this situation, I'd still say that's the best thing you could do now.



Don't blame you for feeling that way. Hopefully, he'll be honest with you about what he wants.

Yeah and I should be honest to, which might be hard....I mean I certainly don't want to sugar coat things just to avoid making him unhappy, because in the long run that typically hurts people more. So I guess I'll text him back see what he wants, and do my best to be honest about things.......and at the moment its not exactly the greatest I will have to be honest about having what seems to be worsening PTSD and depression and stuff like that. But that's if he didn't text me back to finally admit he's not intrested which is what I was suspecting might have happened.

not really sure why you'd want anything to do with him, unless he had a very good reason for not contacting you for so long. he didn't treat you very well, Sweetleaf.

I have a theory on this but I'll be told to shut my fat cakehole.

I pmed as my response is less than appropriate for this forum.

He treated me fine, other then the not texting back for so long...at least from my perspective but I'll certainly be careful about it and find out why he didn't contact for that long...maybe he wasn't lying when he said he had a lot of crap going on he had to deal with but I'll find out. but yeah I figured I would get a second opinion here before responding to it.

that, right there (bolded) is a manner of treating you badly. he essentially blew you off. he left you hanging after you were getting something started.

what was his excuse as to why he didn't contact you?

I don't know yet, like I said in the OP I am going to wait a while myself before texting him back.

it sounds like you were only a back up plan to him, I don't know much about it though, but that's what it looks like to me. unless he had a good reason I wouldn't bother with him. that's just me though.

a back up plan to what? I highly doubt he was with another chick......I mean I guess I will know if I end up meeting up with him at his work and notice weird looks from the people he works with who already saw me once as well as a couple other friends he had over while I was there. But yeah it is a possibly I guess its just not the impression I got at all. But whatever I'll see what he wants and might choose not to bother.......but if he has a good reason for going so long without texting me I'm not going to tell him to f*ck off. As is if he wants to hook up again there are some things I need to tell him that he would have to be ok with it in order for me to meet up with him again.

ah, I don't really know how to explain it with out being to harsh, guys are ass holes.

i don't think guys are a**holes, but i do agree with what you're saying about the backup plan. Sweetleaf he mighta been after someone else and it didn't work out, or maybe he just wants a booty call. either way, he's not shaping up to be very considerate.

This MIGHT (not necessarily, mind you) be true. Make him be truthful with you for your own sake--don't let yourself get hurt.

If you sense he's bulls***ing you, end the conversation.

I don't think it's fair to state that he blew her off. I am for one, may be of that hip new generation, but I absolutely despise texting. I hate texting with a living passion. The only time I reply to a text message is if it is important. And important to me isn't, "I got a haircut" it's a "Your brother is in the hospital" That's an emergency. Sometimes I also don't have my phone with me. I'm not the type of person to hear a phone or even the buzzing of a text message so readily easily. I find out later that I have 10 messages from my GF that I missed.

Don't always assume the worse. But also do assume the worse. I know that sounds weird, but at the same time you have to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Unless he is the type of person who text, give him the benefit of the doubt.

It could be that he panicked when he realized that you were looking for a more serious relationship than he was, and needed a while to figure out his feelings for you. But it might as well be that he had another iron in the fire which didn't work out, or simply wants another round of sex after which he will leave you hanging again.