How NOT to pick up a woman

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I was in a library reading my email. On the desk nearby me, a guy was sitting next to a girl and talking to her.

I can't say that the guy had any bad intentions, but it was clear that he wanted to meet this girl and he had NO game.

First, she was using a computer, so she was occupied at the moment. Not the best time to approach someone.

Second, he had a fake high-pitched soothing kind of tone. He put up a big smile all of the time, made excessive praise of the littlest things in the conversation (mentioning how beautiful he thought her name was on 3 different occasions) and he would have this exagerrated kind of flattering response like "Oh, really!!" to something so small and insignificant.

Third, he pelted her with one question after the next like a boring job interview. He asked her where she was from. What it was like in her home country. Like as soon as she answered a question, he would move on to the next one without any interesting discussion. Then her name. After asking for her name, he continued talking about the pronunciation of the name for a whole minute.

There were gaps of silence and then he would re-initiate 30 seconds later with another question. She would just respond and then go back to her business. She never initiated ANY part of the discussion and she rarely added anything to the conversation other than direct answers to his questions.

She had no eye contact with him.

He asked her for her Facebook (despite how badly the conversation was going, he was unaware). She gave it to him, but I highly doubt they will be seeing each other again.

So, basically, I learned from this experience I observed on how NOT to be when meeting a woman that I find attractive (or anyone).

And right now, they're having wild, uninhibited sex.
In the living room.
On the kitchen table.
All over the place.

I think... That the guy did something brave. How was he brave? Well, he put his ego, and therefore personality on the line. Being rejected isn't the easiest of things. Even if you just approached a random girl which you have no emotional ties to.

Chances are that he's some form of 'gamer' who just begun approaching random women. Why would someone do such a thing? They want to get laid. How does approaching random women get you laid? You improve your aptitude in social dynamics through countless of encounters. That's how you improve your game, since hitting on your girlfriends ain't... The coolest thing to do.

That random chick was most likely number X of thirty people he'd approach that day. With every interaction, he would have some form of social feedback so he could evaluate his approach and therefore adjust his behavior in a more favorable manner.

I'm most likely talking out of my ass, lol.

I think this person knew he was doing a bad job. After all, his encounter was littered with... Social incongruences. Question after question, lame conversation, skipping past subjects in an unattural manner, interrupting the chick whilst she was working, nothing but a monologue on his side, etc etc.

Last edited by Blueberrypie on 16 Apr 2012, 11:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

He wanted to try out what he read on some random PUA site. He read it on the internet, of course it's gonna work.

Oh well. Hey, if he doesn't get arrested for harassment and/or tresspassing and/or get kicked out of establishments, more power to him for trying.

The big sign says "no report nor reciprocal". Been there, done that. With positive feedback loop he will learn the game. Yes, it's a game full of BS, but that's how it works. At least with NT girls.

Oh god I hope not
He definitely might want to find other resources!

You should at least applaud him for trying... Even if he failed miserably, at least he tried.. I guess. Wouldn't catch ME doing something like that. And if someone did that to me, I'd nod and then probably walk away.

I've acted like that before trying to get a date with women I knew & was sort of friends with & i was certainly NOT a gamier or trying any kind of PUA bull. it just came out like that with me because I was nervous.

i don't think he was into PUA or that he had bad intentions. i think he was just a stereotypical "nice guy" who was unable to hold interesting conversation and unaware of the fact he couldn't.

Also, another story, my friend had this guy who kept talking with her. It was funny, but sad in a way. He would come to where she works and give her soup. He would flatter her and flatter her, but he could not hold an interesting conversation. He spent 2-3 minutes talking about soup.

He did well.

and I agree with VM, you can never know, he might be having wild sex with her while you're mocking his ways here.

Did well? She never made eye contact with him once.

Wild sex? I doubt it.

He communicated with her. How well he did or what she thought of him, we don't know. I agree with your assessment of the details but most importantly, overall he communicated interest in her.

We do know he tried and he got her name and her Facebook so he lives to try again. That's a success.

You don't have to be perfect, you don't have to have a perfect game.

It can be useful to analyze what others do, and get ideas. Hopefully you can try them out, emphasis on the 'trying', not expecting that you're going to be perfect in real time.

Well, minervx, it's not always the guy's fault here, believe me.

Some women are NOT "interesting conversations" materials, I knew that from the women I approached lately. And some women are BORING, yes ....women can be boring too, you know, it's not always the men.

Some of them are too extrovert that they had no interest in having any type of intellectual conversations (science, politics, economy....etc).

One of the women i approached doesn't read any books nor she reads articles, she has no subject of interest for reading. So what would you converse this woman other than the few extracurricular activities she does? those don't last as long conversations usually especially if you don't do them yourself.

Someone explain to me what in that whole tory has anything to do with PUA?

First response...and hilarious

Not minervx but:
From the little research I did on the PUA area I found that several of this "gurus" encouraged males to keep asking the girls questions about themselves so that they think you are very interested on actually getting to know them better...

Not sure if thats what he was referring to.

The whole ask her questions about herself is good but you cant keep asking her questions about her life without interjecting/talking about yours or it looks fishy(imo)


As for the OP at least he tried and thats more than plenty of people can say.