I am in love with my best girlfriend... help

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So im brand new to this site and i have decided to use the sites resources to help me in my dillema... I have been in love with the same girl for five years now and she happens to be my bestfriend, but i've never been able to relate these feelings to her... I have known that i have had Aspergers since I was nine and never tried to interact socially untill i met her. She is a very important part of my life and i dont think i could go through life without her, but there is a part of me that wants to tell her how i feel... unfortuantely another part of me makes me start talking gibberish whenever I try... I dont want to lose her from my life but I also dont want to go through life wondering what if.... So... does anybody have any advice?

That sounds like a difficult situation but telling her how you feel shouldn't jeopardize your friendship if she is a true friend. It seems like you really fancy this girl and I would say it's worth a try.

I would tell her know how you feel in a note since you aren't able to say it to her. But keep it light-
hearted. Let her know that if she doesn't feel the same way, you understand, and want to stay best friends. Let us know how it turns out.

I will not be much of help this would violate my own personal code of ethics by giving you advice good luck with it though

I cant tell her now... I was going to last night but i was struck with a crushing blow... shes started seeing someone and i care about her to much to meddle in her happiness... but i cant help wanting that happiness too... life is hard and every time i try to make the most out of it it comes back for vengence...

sadly it is official... And I refuse to interfere with the relationship in anyway, because all I want for her is for her to be happy... regardless of if it is with me or not... I wont give up hope that one day Ill get my chance but untill then Ill just be there for her like she has been there for me.

Maybe I'm just bitter from my own experiences, but I wouldn't say it's really worth it to hold out on anybody regardless of how you feel about them. It just won't work. It's best to just move on and find someone else before things turn sour.

Good news they broke up! Even better news I have the perfect time and place to tell her already planned out! It seems as though all the pieces in this puzzle I call life are slowly falling into place... i hope...

Beware though--just the fact that she broke up with another guy doesn't mean that now she will see you as more than just a friend. I have had many problems with girls who liked me very much as a person, but did not feel attracted. Some of them kept changing boyfriends in front of me, and obviously were feeling bad about their difficulty with guys, yet I remained "invisible".