Love Triangles and First Kisses

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Okay, so it seems like my initiation into the world of dating and romance will start with a sort of love triangle. You may recall some of my previous posts about this guy I met on OKCupid named Jay. Well, it looks like we'll soon finally become a couple.

However, it seems that another guy has come into the picture. His name is Johnathen, and we met on Facebook. He told me that I reminded him of somebody he knew from ROTC, and he also graduated from the same high school that I did (he graduated during my freshman year at that school). We became friends, hit it off, and went to see Titanic in theaters last Thursday. Afterward, we hung out in his car until he finally dropped me off at my house. During our ride home, I subtly grabbed his arm and basically made skin-to-skin contact with him. He took note of this, because when he pulled up in front of my house, he held my hand and motioned at me like he was about to kiss me. He ended up kissing me on my temple (my first kiss from a guy, sort of), and then I left.

I realized my problem of having to choose between these two guys. Naturally, I thought that I should stick with Jay, since I've known him the longest and we were already trying to develop a relationship. Plus, I felt both guys deserved better than to have me date both of them at the same time, plus, my conscience wouldn't allow such a thing. So I let Johnathen off by explaining to him my situation and that I wasn't closing the door on a potential relationship with him in the future. He was cool with it, and we intend to hang out with each other more often in the future.

Still, I really have feelings for Johnathen. I couldn't help but feel disappointed that I had to let him down, because I really do like him. I'm also subconsciously hoping that we will end up together sometime in the near future.

Well, that's a basic update with my love life. I wonder if anybody has ever experienced anything similar, or perhaps might have some sort of commentary on my present situation.

Well I was in a love triangle with two girls at school that wanted to date me. I went out with one of them then the other we would brake up then I go out with the previous one tthat I dated it kept. Gong back and forth like I was a human ping pong ball that was my love triangel experience.

Im confused.

Your profile says that you're male.

But you're dating guys.

Its ok if you're gay or transgender or something, but it would be helpful if you stated that in your story if thats the case.

So is your profile gender a typo or what?

I'm a gay male. I didn't mention that in my original post because I didn't feel it was that important to mention, plus I'd assumed that people would have already known my sex, given my previous posts on the matter.

I knew Descartes and I didn't think it would matter either plus I am sure you have good taste in men

How would that be helpful? It's the same as any other relationship.

I agree.

Which one do you think would be a longer potential relationship?

I'd go for the Facebook dude, he seemed to treat you right and if that doesn't work out, you could always go with the OKC dude.

Well, it's happened. Around two o'clock in the morning today, I had my first kiss, ironically, with Johnathen.

Here's what happened. Johnathen, after getting off work, invited me to hang out with him around midnight. I accepted his invite, and asked if we could go riding in his car. Also, I got my mp3 for us to listen to while in the car. While the music was playing, we cuddled, and he held my hand while commenting on how soft my skin and hair was. Meanwhile, he was kissing me on my cheek, my hand, and my head. Eventually, he asked me if he could kiss me for real. I affirmed his request, and we kissed on the lips. It was a little awkward for me, and after it was done, I couldn't help but wonder if I had done something wrong. Despite this, we kissed several more times. I remember the song Love Me, Thrill Me, Kiss Me - by Mel Carter - had just begun when we kissed on the lips for the first time. Later, he gave me a back massage, and then proceeded to kiss my neck. When I got home shortly thereafter, my hair was moistened and ratted from his kissing me there, and the scent of his cologne lingered on my skin.

Now, about that other guy (Jay). Clearly, I'm going to have to decide which one I'm going to go with. Since Jay and I are not officially a couple yet, I don't really feel that bad with my rendezvous with Johnathen.

Okay, I'm going to admit that I am confused, but I am experiencing something somewhat similar. Basically, my ex (Who I insult on a daily basis.) is trying to go out with me, despite the fact I'm already going out with Hannah. The worst of it is that she KNOWS I'm going out with Hannah, and yet she won't stop trying to go out with me. Not the same as you described, but an interesting predicament all the same.

You're right. Your situation is different from mine in that you already know which girl you want, whereas I don't know which guy I want. You're just going to have to continue rejecting your ex's advances and, hopefully, she'll eventually let the fact that you are no longer interested in her sink in. However, I also think you should refrain from insulting her. That's definitely uncalled for.

It's not necessarily definitely uncalled for; sometimes, exes deserve to be insulted, like if they were abusive or murderous or sociopathic or cheating or pedophile-y or any of those horrible things.

Hey, I insult loads of people, if they get offended by it, it ain't my goddamn problem.

Alright, you might be interested in seeing THIS post of mine, Descartes.

Love Triangles. Ugh. I think I just... No, I'm still in one, but I've been making progress in getting out of it.

I'll try and keep it as short as possible because I'm on a time constraint here.

> Met girl online over half a year ago
> Fell in love eventually, wasn't really expecting love when I first met her, it was on WP and stuff
> She disappears for over a month, another girl comes into the picture as she apparently falls in love with me
> I think, 'Wouldn't it be just so much easier to be with a girl that's so much closer?'
> And this other girl is pretty cool, too, but not on the level of my girl's coolness~
> But it did tempt me. And confuse me. And for a moment, I was in the in-between state, but my promises to the girl I'd known before convince me.
> So I try and dissuade this girl from loving me. Doesn't work. I'm too awesome. But anyways, I want to stay her friend, and she wants to stay my friend for as long as it takes for me to fall in love with her...
> And I'm about to tell her that I'm in love with someone else.
> Not so fun.

Pretty much what happened. I'd say that if you said to this guy on OKC that you weren't going to do anything while you waited to meet up, or anything of that sort, then you should stick with the OKC guy at least until you meet up... If it turns out for the worst (And I don't mean you sabotaging it to be with Jonathan on purpose, but truly bad), then I guess you can be with Jonathan.

Hope that helped at all. Love triangles are quite confusing sometimes, but when I'm confused, I stick to my promises.