Sexual intolerance (long rant)

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Let me begin by saying that recently I had joined a dating advice forum. I found a link to a site called "Way Too Personal", on which a woman publicly humiliates people’s responses to her dating ad with her boyfriend. She calls these people "freaks" and "losers". Some of the responses aren’t even that perverted. She calls it a "humor website".

I posted to the forum about it and found out the website was actually run by a moderator. I politely suggested that she simply either ignore the responses to her ad or try to help them directly, instead of humiliating them on a website. I told them both that I had Asperger’s Syndrome in response to one website insult, "geeky pathetic loser" (after all, it was a dating advice forum and I wanted consolation) and also that I was sexually deviant. I asked them why they hated certain people so much. Although I remained very polite during the discussion, I didn’t get the help I wanted. Instead, they teamed up on me, cursed at me, called me names, and made fun of my disability.

A few months later, I posted again, this time to begin a thread about sexual intolerance. I began by mentioning that there are many kinds of sexual deviance, even apologized for the way I came across the first time, and at the end, I basically asked: "Where do you draw the line, and why?" I didn’t get a single polite response. They all teamed up on me again and accused me of trolling. Almost immediately a moderator called me psychotic (which I happen to be) and banned me. They then proceeded to make fun of Asperger’s Syndrome.

I can’t help but feel that what they did is part of human nature, and therefore, my feelings are very hurt. I’ve never felt so hated by people as when I admitted I was sexually deviant. It’s not like I hurt anyone. I don’t even make any sexual advances. I’m just ridiculed for being "creepy".

I’ve never had a girlfriend, so I don’t know why, but it seems that society has a vicious double standard about all personality differences as compared to sexual deviance. It’s okay if you’re black, or Muslim, or even homosexual, but it’s not okay if you have any other kind of sexual deviance -- it’s just "too weird". That makes me angry, for one simple reason: we obviously haven’t learned anything since we discriminated against other minorities. I say we’re still just as prejudiced as we used to be. Yesterday it was blacks; today, it’s sexual deviance. No difference. We’re just too selfish to consider the feelings of anyone who doesn’t belong to our little circle of "normal". Thus, the cruelty of nature.

That's it.

What exactly is your sexual deviance? Though I wonder if it should go in the "Mature AS discussions," I'm sure some light bondage every now and then isn't that deviant.

I feel submissive to women. Then again, I've never had a girlfriend and I've been bullied my whole life.

I have my sexual biases as well...they start and stop at ..."hurting other people or animals"....anything that does not fall into that category is OK.Do I find some peoples preferences difficult to understand or would prefer not hearing the details....yes.Would I not date some people whose preferences fall outside my own...yes.

I agree, I don't like anyone hurting anybody. That includes child abuse and so on.

What I didn't understand is why they took out all their anger on me just for mentioning the paraphilias. It's not like I myself abuse children. I was trying to introduce them to open-minded thinking.

Whatever floats your boat man. As long as your consenting I don't care.

I'm not sure it has much to do with you at all. I think you just ran into some people who enjoy hurting other people. They would have picked on you for your shoe size if they couldn't think of anything else.

You and me both need to stop ignoring warning signs in these situations.

How utterly sad and pathetic that two ADULT people are incapable of progressing emotionally beyond the level of playground bullies, and still gain amusement from hurting people less able to defend themselves. Perhaps they behave the way they do due to some form of personality disorder, or maybe they've got sexual or emotional inadequacies they're trying to make up for. Either way, people like these make me ashamed to be human sometimes.

(Edit) Bloomin' hell! I just looked at her site! She's got a face like a horses arse- and that may be being a bit unfair to horses. The website's probably just what she does in her spare time to convince herself and her husband that she's actually an attractive and articulate person so he dosen't chuck her for being the piece of human refuse she clearly is.

Those people must seriously have no life whatsoever.

Just laugh at them. Then ignore them. I treat people like that with less consideration than the dogshit I happen to get on my shoes sometimes.

They're hypocrites. When people are that desperate to reject others as sexually inadequate, it's nearly always always just to boost their own self esteem. If they didn't feel at least a little inadequate, they wouldn't get any pleasure from it.

Btw, what's the url of the forum?

http://www.waytoopersonal.com/

Being submissive to women is deviance?


Wow...

Half the time I love being a slave (not bondage just doing what I'm told) the other half I like to take control?

Does this make me deviant?

No.. it makes me human, and also honest.

Don't let them hurt you, that is their only intention, some people can't think past the little box they place themselves in.

And it's no wonder why I try to keep a fair distance from NTs. Then again, I've even encountered Aspies with this kind of vicious mentality, but it's rarer. Like everyone has said, ignore than and don't let what they say get under your skin. They're not worth the attention or the energy.

Also, something to think about: deviance is relative. Everyone has a different view on what is and isn't deviant. Just because they label something as deviant doesn't make them right. It doesn't make them wrong, either. Sadly, I've found that a lot of NTs state their opinions as fact, which is a damn shame.

Again, don't let them get under your skin. They're not worth it. It's better to be diverse and individualistic than to be inside the box.