Thinking about doing this, not sure if I should.

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Ok, from those that know me, I posted a thread about my last girl i had a relationship with and how she sent me some really mixed signals. She really screwed me up in the head.
I couple of months ago, I met someone new, and she just wanted to get together for sex. We got together a couple of times and its been awsome, I think we have become good friends, too. She gave me my confednece back and i feel like a man again.The first girl hurt me so much I want to send her a letter saying she now longer has any power over me and I meet someone that knows what she likes and goes after it without sending any mixed signals. Should I send a letter like that? I don't care about her feelings and I will feel better if I get back at her.

I'd leave it. Not worth the hassle - just be happy with where you are now, and forget about the past.

I used to go into "overkill" mode if I was treated badly - I've burned a few bridges over the years, and now I wish I hadn't. It doesn't achieve anything other than stirring up ill-feeling. Better to just walk away, knowing in your own mind that you were in the right. That's satisfaction enough, in the long run.

If you think about her that much, she still has power over you. Don't show her as much.

I'm going to give you a bit of tough love. Hopefully the language filter won't catch it.

The best revenge is living well. f**k that b***h. Don't write her any letters, because the mere fact that she enters into your mind enough that you have ot justify the lack of power she has in your life to yourself, means that she still does. f**k her. Go get yourself another woman, or even keep the f**k buddy you have, and the next time your ex see's you, keep walking by as if she does not exist.

In the past I wouldn't have agreed, but I've been through so many relationships that became battles, where we try to hurt each other. Even recently I've had some emotional wars with an ex, each time telling each other all these pathetic things we should change when ultimately, 2 key points came to view.

1- Trying to hurt someone, though an attachment, is far from love, or anything we need.

2- Someone trying to hurt you, or trying to inspire you to anger, is not there to love you.

3- We change ourselves, no one else can do it for us, or to us.

Sex with friendship? Sounds like a beautiful thing to me.

This same ex of mine rubbed it in that she was doing other guys, and I'm telling you, it was horrible for me to imagine, so ultimately I blocked her out from such petty games, and told her I would always be there if she has anything positive to share.

Revenge is never worth it, because ultimately what are you getting out of it? Someone elses pain?

Since I stopped trying to give each person what I think they deserve, I realised I must give, only what I can give, and expect no more or less of anyone else. I'm trying to show my ex that I treasure everything we ever shared, because ultimately it led me to here, to this moment.

Sorry if I wandered, came out of hospital today and I'm all drugged up

Well I wrote the letter, not sure if i should send it. I don't think its that bad, what you guys think?


Dear Heidi,
You played me like a violin. You knew what you were doing, teasing me, inviting me into your bed, leading me on. You had me wrapped around your finger. You should have known it would come to a head but you did not care.
I was very hurt with what you did to me, you f****d with my head good. I had to see a therapist because of what you did. You enjoyed every minute of it. You hate men so you thought f*****g with me would make you feel better.
The reason for this letter is I just want to say you no longer have power over me. I met someone else that put my trust back in women. She is 20 and makes me feel like the happiest man on earth. She loves it when I kiss her, massage her, touch her. She loves it when I make her p**** dripping with just my finger. She loves it when I lick her deep. She takes me so deep and so good, and she does not want me to stop. She is my slut and she loves it when I call her that and take control.
You tried to destroy me but it did not work. She brought me back. You plan to get back at men backfired big time. I know because of your actions you will burn in hell with my step dad, Amy, and anyone else that screwed with me for no reason. I just wanted to let you know where you will end up. Have a nice life until then.
Ken

Yeah, definitely don't send that.


And I would also suggest deleting that post.

Jesus dude wtf!? Kids come here, put i the mature forums if anything, but I suggest you keep that to yourself! And no, not a good idea to send. A) You're putting the ball in her court and by taking the time to write it, it still means you think about her and you're not really over it - or at least not over her opinion, however much you seem to despise it. You're giving her power. B) If you TRULY are over it, then do what a person who is TRULY over it would do: move on and be happy. REALLY move on, which means completely cut off anything previous. Don't send something new something you claim is old.

P.S. There are much more effective ways of writing a letter than being obscene.

OK, I won't send it. But if I ever run into Her I will say the same thing. I really want her to hurt like she hurt me.

LOL

Oh man

Are you sure it's not just that you can't take the blame for a relationship going bad, and have to cast her as the villain? Sounds like she made the right choice. Good for her.

Right, and if you do that KenM, you join the ranks of all the other Male Chavanist pigs out there who say they wanna treat women right, but don't.

Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever say that to a woman. Ever. even if she dumped you for no danged reason. You may be hurting, but Bloody Hell, that is no excuse to wipe her around like that.

Gads!

what a pretty piece of mysogonistic trash.



if I got a letter like that from some jerk that I dumped, I would laugh for a week about how much I was *still* screwing him up (that letter being the proof), and I would show that thing to every person I had ever met in my entire life, and possibly some strangers on the street, as well.

She's right.

Although I do sympathise with you, it's best to move on.

Sometimes things just happen. And that's that.