I took a job at my ex's work, huge mistake?

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My ex and i met at work when i started working there last year. I was only there for a short while before leaving to go back to studying. My course has now finished and the first job offer that came up was back at my old job, on a temp basis. I didn't think i would have a lot to do with my ex but now that i'm there it turns out i see him on a daily basis.

It's been really uncomfortable mostly because i think i hurt him quite a lot when we broke up, and i feel like i've been really unfair to him by just turning up in his life and on his turf again. When i'm around him i feel my old feelings for him coming back and i'm so nervous it's meant i can't focus on my job.

I text him earlier tonight to ask if he wanted to have a chat and clear the air, to no reply. Now i'm completely dreading work tomorrow

Anyone any advice? I'm considering handing in my notice but that would let down so many people and mean i have to find new work when there's not a lot going around. Help!!

He is probably still a bit raw about the whole thing, but I definitely wouldn't resign over it! You can't do something so life-changing just for the sake of avoiding someone, especially in a recession like this. I personally would just give it some time and let him decide what he wants to do. The ball is in his court. You've texted him, tried to be nice- there's nothing else you can really do. He probably needs some time to think things over, but ultimately you need to look out for numero uno.

You've done nothing wrong by returning to work.
Some awkwardness is a risk of workplace romance, if you can handle it, everything is fine.
If he can't deal with it, that's his problem.