What Men Really Want

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I see many threads on what women want, so I figure its high time to see what women think men want, or perhaps they think they already know and consider us all shallow.

why does women hardly ever care to ask or talk about or think about what men wants?

Come on ladies, fork it over, let us know what you think we want, or are we not worth the fussing over? as in, do you think all men so shallow and easy? is that what you think of us? come on now, tell us. come on fuss a little, let us see that flip side of the coin.

iirc Dr Laura says it's
Food, Sex, and good reading material.
Any woman that provides the first two will keep her man forever.

I think she's pretty much right.
Everything else are basically hobbies and personal preferences.

more or less

I think that it depends on the man. Not everyone wants the same thing, and while I assume that a larger number of men are more interested in casual sex than women are, I don't think they all are, and I don't think it's just a few women who are. I'd say it's probably closer to equal in numbers, but just a matter of finding each other. I do think that around certain age groups, men will be more interested in casual sex than women, but I could be wrong.

Some men are more interested in looks, some are more interested in goals or sharing beliefs, some are more interested in finding the girl with the right personality. It's going to vary as widely as the number of men who answer this, I assume.

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I think I could live with a mixture of the above for a good while but after the sex dries up..you'd hope you are compatible people, surely!

Isn't it just to get laid and nothing else? An extreme, unfulfilled sex drive and total lack of any kind of social skills is not a good combination.

Well hell, if those things are what most all men want and thats what women understand, then no wonder they get board with us. feeling we just want a mother to cook and clean as well as a piece of meat.

Come on Ladies, set aside the men posters, I want to hear your own thoughts. as well as what you hope or would like to see and find.

It changes from relationship to relationship. If you have had one extreme and got fed up, you often look for the other extreme in the next potential mate. It's not static.

What is a static need, is food, so get cookin'.

AspergianMutantt - great aspiration. But I am afraid you will be disappointed with posts here.

I some parts of my country people say(and I cleaned the language up as much as I possibly could in the translation); "A vagina is a vagina no matter what it's attached to"

Oh, I sure like some good cooking, but expecting my parner to do that for me would be just plain wrong. I'm actually looking forward to make some brigadeiros for her, now that I learnt how to

Men want different things, OOM (out of mana! I mean OliveOilMom ), making a generalization of half the human race would be folly. It may be possible to reach some sort of underlying pattern, and I'm actually reading a book about it, but I haven't finished it yet so just you wait . In the end it's only a pattern though, and everybody is different.

What do I want? I'm not sure yet, I already got an approximate idea that changes with time and experience, plus some knowledge about what I do not want, but my thoughts are still hazy.

My perception, backed up by nothing but my personal anecdotal observations and therefore entirely likely to be wrong, is that the things men and women want from relationships are not really that different. There always seem to be plenty of people of both genders around who are mostly interested in casual sex, or who are attracted to others for what I would consider shallow reasons like looks, status, money, etc. Unfortunately these people seem to be the most outgoing and visible, and maybe that's why they form the stereotypes. But if you can look past them there are plenty of nice people from both genders who are looking for someone whose personality is compatible with theirs, and who can form a mutually fulfilling, lasting relationship with them.

I guess I don't see what all the fuss is about with trying to determine exactly what characteristics are the most desirable. Seriously, who knows exactly what they want until it's right in front of them? You might think something is really important and seek out people who fit that preconception, only to discover that when you meet someone really special, that preference actually doesn't matter as much as you thought it did. Likewise, you might find someone you think is perfect, only to discover they have insurmountable flaws you never foresaw (I can testify to that one! )

If people try to start relationships with one party enumerating mandatory traits and the other party trying to conform to those, it doesn't sound very healthy or productive. People are unique and organic, not the sum of their parts. If a male or a female isn't willing to meet interesting people and find out whether they work well together, then in my opinion he or she would not be a good person to be in a relationship anyway.

I'll summarise everything.
During research I've looked into, these were the results:

Women said they cared a great deal about personality; they cared more about status and physical dominance in men.
Men said they cared a great deal about personality; they cared more about physical attractiveness in women.

This is seen rather easily in practical situations. I'm currently away from home, near the beach for a few days. There is just one type of couple here. Men who are easily half a foot taller than their partners, in fashionable clothes, with relatively-large amounts of muscles, dating pretty women who look several years younger than them. That's all. I've yet to see an exception after seeing dozens of couples.

Men want physical attractiveness; women want both emotional/physical and material status.

If you look like Mick Avory, give me a call.