broke down crying last night.

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well, I compelety broke down crying last night. this happened becuase I've be so alone fo far too long, and nobody is willing to help. I'm if all the same excuses my so called relatives/friends keep giving me. I've told them that I tried all that, I tried to go places, I tried to meet people, I tried everything I could think of, and everything people told me to do. But none of that worked!! ! I'm at point where I find no reason to live if i can't get a girlfriend soon. my life has no purpose or meaning without someone to love. I all I've ever wanted, and all I've ever needed, is a relastionship with someone who truely cares. I'm a very senisitve guy, and as such my feeling are hurt severely when I see everyone else and how thye take relastionships for granted. too many people have it too easy, they can get a relationship any time they want, then throw it away and get a new one. but I just want one speical person in my life, like i siad I've tried everyhting! and I"m getting extremely desperate. people just don't understand what it feels like to be shunned be soceity and tormented in unspeakable manners. there is only one person a consider to be a true friend, and I asked him to help me find a girlfreind. he's the only guy who actualy tried to help. I know he's a true friend becuase of this, well that and we help each other alot. but even he has a girlfreind, in fact he's had many relastionships in the past. buy why can't I get that? everyone needs someone to love, and of course I do too. it's nice that my only real friend was kind enough as to introduce me to girl he knows through facebook. who also happens to live right here in town, so maybe I'll get to meet her, she seems nice. so, I've finally manage to grasp a very small amount or hope, but I don't know how long that hope will last. I was very depressed last night, so if anyone can give me some helpful feedback, I'd much apprieciat it.

I know the feeling. I'm 23 and single. I feel kinda lame not having a boyfriend. I haven't found that mr. right yet, lots of crazy people fall in love with me lol.

Just keep being you, love will surely find its way into your life eventually. Or simply love life as it is, because that is what keeps me going.

I don't have any good advice to give since I have been in this position myself. Knowing that it's not because of some superficial reason but because of my personality makes it even more difficult; especially when people tell me I am an amazing human being yet no one wants to be my partner. I have learned that I intimidate people and even if I try to "tone it down" or engage in NT banter, the situation doesn't change. Specifically, it's because I hate doing that and I can't be anyone else other than me. I would love to have a partner, but only if he loves the real me. The loneliness in unbearable at times and I wonder if I will ever find that person but I will never compromise who I am. I also want to share my life with someone. It's like a dream that slowly is becoming more like a fantasy, but I won't give up on it, ever.

I won't tell you to feel better because those are empty words, but I can say that I know how you feel and it's a terrible feeling.



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We are in the same boat, we all are. I also don't believe it when people say that your love will come, but the lonely days seem like forever as each day passes. I feel this way too and sometimes when I go to bed, I break down crying because I'm so lonely and my mind starts piling in with unpleasant thoughts of the past, like bullying and people who turned me down. All I can say is try your best, put your mind into what you want to do, and I know you've heard this many times and so have I, but the only way we get what we want, is if we think positive, which isn't easy for me because I get stuck with negative thoughts too, but I've seen it happen with other situations. Just know that you are not alone and we are all here to relate to others. I hope it all goes well with the girl you're about to meet, best wishes!

I do think that happiness is somewhat of a choice and is never based sought externally. Being lonely is just one thing I get sad about but I certainly don't let it set the theme for my life. In that regard, I love my aspie curiosity because it makes me want to learn so much. It's kind of like always having something to look forward to.

I guess I'm saying that, while being alone for so long is painful, it's not an all or nothing thing for me. Even with some sadness, I can have some fundamental happiness.

If you have nothing to look forward to, create something to look forward to. What I mean is, nothing happens when we are still. An object in motion tends to stay in motion. An object at rest.... you know how it goes. Even the smallest motion from ourselves can make big waves later. One wakes up one day and finds that their life has unexpectedly and radically changed.