Do you believe in different types of love?

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I do.

I'm not sure how to explain it,though,so I will think more about it.


-SpaceCase

What do you mean by different types of love?????

Love is a word, the feelings are different for each person.

I certainly do, SpaceCase. Minor crush, major crush, lust, limerence, family love, puppy love, nonsexual lust, romantic love, "true" love, and Losing Oneself In Another are my major categorizations.

Every feeling of love is unique while sharing commonalities with each other, like every snowflake is unique yet shares commonalities. I think the commonality in love is a desire to give to the other person and to comfort them. The unique part is determined by the people involved.

"Like the love between a man and a woman or the love of a man for a fine Cuban cigar?" (Dr. Hibbert)

Aren't all snowflakes symmetrical?

Summer:

Yeah I think I do. It took me years to categorize it.

1. I do have a basic love for human kind. All people. I like to believe that people are ultimately good. Although I do not go around acting this way anymore, and I know better. I still like to think it privately to myself.

2. Spiritual love: I love God. I was really angry for a long time and turned my back from him. I suffered from turning away. But, God is the essence of love to me and he's not going to stop people from hurting me. But he will always love me and if I clear my mind and meditate, I feel I can accept myself better. Maybe God is the only one who ever has really loved me just the way I am. People are no better at protecting me than him. Yet, I don't feel judged by God like I do by people. This is Spiritual love to me.

3. Acquaintance love. I could hope that my acquaintance works through difficulties but I am not going to delve myself into their problems. I could care and mildly assist.

4. Friend. I will care more if a friend is going through something hard. Maybe because a friend does more things for me that make me happy. And if my friend is miserable, our friendship suffers. So, I may get deeper into their things and feel more love for a friend than an acquaintance.

5. Family. This is tough because I like my family less than I like my acquaintances. Can't answer this one. I also came up with my own definition for what a family is to me. Family is any person or group of people who I can be 100% myself with. They don't judge me, hurt me, etc. They do not have to have blood relation with me. I never feel that I have to lie to "family." or be something that I am not. "Family" is the group of people I would say are in the inner most circle of my life.

6. Romantic love. Must be like family to me with sex.

So, 5 and 6 and the most that I can love another person. #2 is my love for God.

For me, yes, there is. It's divided into two categories: Love and sexual attraction. I can love someone without being sexually attracted to them and vice versa, or even both. The likelyhood of my being sexually attracted to someone without loving them, however, is nil. Blame my upbringing.

Here's how it would work in my case: If the person I'm dating/about to marry isn't a virgin, I can still love her. However, I find being a virgin to be a sexually attractive/admirable quality to me (I'm still a virgin) and without it, sex isn't gonna happen, making the marriage a strictly Platonic one. She'll have to find it (sex) elsewhere or divorce me because she's not getting it from me. The only way love and sexual attraction can happen on the same relationship plane is if she's a virgin, as well.

Yeah, I'm picky, but it's better than settling for something I -don't- want in a relationship. Compromise in a relationship kills, and I speak from experience.

You bet.

Even if we're just limiting it to the sexual kind.

Yes there's different types of love. It's just how we accept it that is a difference. I love the mother of my thre kids, and the same time I love my three dead dogs. And i feel love for a woman in a way, that never will be in my lifespace. I love maths, I love computers, but the only true person I actually can say I loved for real is the mother of my three kids. I've grown avay from her though.

It's a darn hard decision to take to leave somebody but sometimes it's of utmost importance.

i dont believe in love period!

The ONLY thing i believe in is darkness,anger and HATE,'nuff said.

There's always the greek ideals of love.

Eros - Love coupled with desire, love for lovers.

Philia - Friends love, family love etc etc.

Agape - Kinda weird, not sure if i completly understand how they used the word but i think it's like love for your country or your god, wikipedia describes it as a pure unselfish love.

Different brain chemicals help us feel different kinds of love.

Oxytocin is involved in trust and social bonding, and facilitates "cuddle love". Phenylethylamine facilitates romantic love. These two can overlap.

Conditional love: love where a person loves a another person because they met certain qualifications.
Unconditional love: absolutely loving something for whatever it is.