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13 Sep 2012, 9:23 pm

It sounds sort of silly to say ivy just realized it, but... I've been married and divorced, I've had a handful of bedmates, and I'm currently in a 3 year relationship. When I think about it, though, I've never been intimate with anyone I wasn't already good friends with, and I've never been asked out on a date.

I'm not even sure why that occurred to me, or how I feel about it. I knew I had only been in two relationships, but it sort of surprises me that I'd never realized I've never gone through that whole end of courtship.

Is this common?


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13 Sep 2012, 9:32 pm

I'm 37 and I've never been on a date. I don't have a problem with it either.


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13 Sep 2012, 9:36 pm

i am 24. never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never been on a date, never celebrated a anniversary so your love life is great compared to mine.



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13 Sep 2012, 9:37 pm

Its hard enough for normal people to get dates and that kinda stuff.

I honestly think i have a better chance at winning the lottery than getting a date.

Welcome to the new club, Old people without dates.



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13 Sep 2012, 9:39 pm

I did one coffee date and that was so awkward I'm in rush to repeat it. It didn't go badly, just I confirmed my suspicions that I can't provide that initial spark like most men can. Therefore I'm focusing on befriending women in general and seeing where that leads.



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13 Sep 2012, 9:40 pm

Belushi87 wrote:
i am 24. never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never been on a date, never celebrated a anniversary so your love life is great compared to mine.


It might be more accurate to say my love life is more extensive - I could probably convince a jury that you are quite a lot luckier in love than I am.


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13 Sep 2012, 9:53 pm

moved from General Autism Discussion to Love & Dating


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13 Sep 2012, 9:58 pm

spaghedeity wrote:
It sounds sort of silly to say ivy just realized it, but... I've been married and divorced, I've had a handful of bedmates, and I'm currently in a 3 year relationship. When I think about it, though, I've never been intimate with anyone I wasn't already good friends with, and I've never been asked out on a date.

I'm not even sure why that occurred to me, or how I feel about it. I knew I had only been in two relationships, but it sort of surprises me that I'd never realized I've never gone through that whole end of courtship.

Is this common?
married, had sex several times and trying to compare herself to guys who have nvr kissed please...


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13 Sep 2012, 10:31 pm

Married to a man who forced himself upon her many times and thought nothing of it for several YEARS that she slept 20 hours a day, and you think I wouldn't gladly take a life of virginity? Please...

Edit: sorry, that was probably ruder than was required. Still, I maintain that there are valid arguments that being celibate with no relationship experience at the age of 80 would be preferable to the love life I had experienced up until about age 26.


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14 Sep 2012, 1:00 am

I'm almost 30 & I never been on a date either even thou I'm in my 3rd relationship. We all met online & kind of skipped the dating part but that works for me.


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