Could this be interpreted as calling it off/breaking up?

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Ok, the situation is this. I have been hanging out with this wonderful lady for the last few weeks and we have been enjoying eachothers company. Things are just getting started. I will leave this quote below with the forum. There was a small argument, and misunderstanding and I was very hard on myself and she also saw that I was the type of person that has a history of not giving people a fair chance. It is also possible that she saw the OCD in me as well. I am not posting a whole lot of information other than this because I don't want to violate her trust in me. To my knowledge, she is not registered with this website, but I am not ruling out the possibility that she may read stuff on this website since she has knowledge of this website and the fact that I am a diagnosed aspie.
Before saying bye, I said to her that I may need to be left alone for now, and that she might want me to do that to her as well for at least a couple days. The last thing I said to her was "I don't think you deserve this from me, so I will work on making me better now" Could me telling her that be interpreted as calling it off? I hope it does not.

Just tell her you need some space so you can think things through. She'll understand.

Just be sure to let her know, and make it absolutely clear, that you don't want to call it off, you just need room to calm down and process things. That way, no assumptions or miscommunications will be made.

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Yeah, the part that scares me is that I won't be communicating with her for a couple days, and by then she may decide to see someone else and then tell me this when I get back to her. I don't know how likely that is though. I do remember communicating with her early on though that I don't want this to be over yet either. She appeared to express the same thing.

You did good, it sounds to me like you're wanting to treat her right and make her aware of that. Try to not let your mind run wild (I know that's difficult, but it's highly unlikely she'll be able to replace several weeks in 2 days at this stage. Use the time to cool off and get back on focus but don't suddenly change any behaviors that were already working