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21 Aug 2011, 7:39 pm
I really just want a friendship back regardless..I don't care..she told me that, but at the time I had heard it so many times it just felt like an insult...My friend said it would be awkward if she showed up at the party we had last night, but I would have been to stoned to be bothered... 
Her boy friend said I stalked her, but we had similiar classes...and I just didn't want to be near her when I walked to my class...I did try talk in the groups she was in but the dissolved as I showed up...like it just seemed wrong. All my friends did for me was either get me drunk, or told me they would be my wing man...and try to find me someone. I don't really want a relationship that will just end in me being depressed again, I want my friend back...
21 Aug 2011, 7:41 pm
21 Aug 2011, 8:37 pm
Fatal-Noogie
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21 Aug 2011, 8:46 pm
Paganpothead wrote:
I really just want a friendship back regardless..I don't care..she told me that, but at the time I had heard it so many times it just felt like an insult
She told you ... what? ...that she really wants a friendship back?
or that she doesn't care?
or that you want a friendship back?
or that you don't care?
If she told you she wants a friendship and you want a friendship,
then where's the problem? That's between you & her.
Just keep your eyes open for more opportunities since she's closed that particular door.
Paganpothead wrote:
My friend said it would be awkward if she showed up at the party we had last night, but I would have been to stoned to be bothered...
So, is your "friend" the same person as "she" in that sentence?
Do you mean ...
she said that you would have been too stoned to feel bothered if she had showed up? or ...
your friend said that you would have been to stoned to feel bothered if she had showed up? or
you were too stoned to feel bothered by what she said about showing up? or
you were too stoned to feel bothered by what your friend said about her showing up? or
you were too stoned to feel bothered if she had shown up?
What I'm trying to say is pass me the bong already!
21 Aug 2011, 9:28 pm
Fatal-Noogie wrote:
Paganpothead wrote:
I really just want a friendship back regardless..I don't care..she told me that, but at the time I had heard it so many times it just felt like an insult
She told you ... what? ...that she really wants a friendship back?
or that she doesn't care?
or that you want a friendship back?
or that you don't care?
If she told you she wants a friendship and you want a friendship,
then where's the problem? That's between you & her.
Just keep your eyes open for more opportunities since she's closed that particular door.
Paganpothead wrote:
My friend said it would be awkward if she showed up at the party we had last night, but I would have been to stoned to be bothered...
So, is your "friend" the same person as "she" in that sentence? Do you mean ...she said that you would have been too stoned to feel bothered if she had showed up? or ...
your friend said that you would have been to stoned to feel bothered if she had showed up? or
you were too stoned to feel bothered by what she said about showing up? or
you were too stoned to feel bothered by what your friend said about her showing up? or
you were too stoned to feel bothered if she had shown up?
What I'm trying to say is pass me the bong already!
my friend brought her up he told her I would there and it would be awkward...she wanted to go but I think she was joking.
teaearlgreyhot: I have no interest in someone that I can most likely never be with, that's just depressing. I am just trying to repair some of the damage I've done..if I can.
21 Aug 2011, 9:54 pm
21 Aug 2011, 10:00 pm
21 Aug 2011, 10:06 pm
Paganpothead wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Paganpothead wrote:
teaearlgreyhot: I have no interest in someone that I can most likely never be with, that's just depressing. I am just trying to repair some of the damage I've done..if I can.
I see. Perhaps it would be best if you left her alone. You may not think you have feelings for her now, but it doesn't mean you won't again in the future if you two were able to become friends again.
I've done the whole "friends with ex" thing, and it can get rather awkward and messy. Best not to tread down that path IMO.
Unattached sex is a far cry from having romantic feelings for someone.
Infatuation, you say? Regardless, I don't believe feelings like that ever truly go away. You can dull them with space/distance, but that's about it.
Of course, I'm speaking for myself here. For all I know, you could handle a friendship without becoming infatuated (as you put it) again.
21 Aug 2011, 10:45 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Paganpothead wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Paganpothead wrote:
teaearlgreyhot: I have no interest in someone that I can most likely never be with, that's just depressing. I am just trying to repair some of the damage I've done..if I can.
I see. Perhaps it would be best if you left her alone. You may not think you have feelings for her now, but it doesn't mean you won't again in the future if you two were able to become friends again.
I've done the whole "friends with ex" thing, and it can get rather awkward and messy. Best not to tread down that path IMO.
Unattached sex is a far cry from having romantic feelings for someone. Infatuation, you say? Regardless, I don't believe feelings like that ever truly go away. You can dull them with space/distance, but that's about it.
Of course, I'm speaking for myself here. For all I know, you could handle a friendship without becoming infatuated (as you put it) again.
21 Aug 2011, 11:20 pm
22 Aug 2011, 12:11 am
22 Aug 2011, 12:12 am
Fatal-Noogie
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22 Aug 2011, 12:31 am
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
No, it's realistic. You can't go through life longing for the past. Other people are waiting to meet you and know you the way she did.
So you're saying one can't long for the past and plan for the future at the same time?
I know many people who actually do it very well.
The Future comes first (not chronologically
but in terms of priority),
but that doesn't mean we have to flush our Past down the drain.
22 Aug 2011, 1:39 am
Fatal-Noogie wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
No, it's realistic. You can't go through life longing for the past. Other people are waiting to meet you and know you the way she did.
So you're saying one can't long for the past and plan for the future at the same time?I know many people who actually do it very well.
The Future comes first (not chronologically
but in terms of priority),but that doesn't mean we have to flush our Past down the drain.
Of course we can spend time reminiscing. That's different than trying to recapture a facet of a dead relationship.
So maybe 'longing' was the wrong word. Perhaps I should have used the word 'chasing'.
23 Aug 2011, 12:09 am
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Fatal-Noogie wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
No, it's realistic. You can't go through life longing for the past. Other people are waiting to meet you and know you the way she did.
So you're saying one can't long for the past and plan for the future at the same time?I know many people who actually do it very well.
The Future comes first (not chronologically
but in terms of priority),but that doesn't mean we have to flush our Past down the drain.
Of course we can spend time reminiscing. That's different than trying to recapture a facet of a dead relationship.
So maybe 'longing' was the wrong word. Perhaps I should have used the word 'chasing'.
you guys are right, that was pointless..I just hate it..mood ruined for the night.
29 Oct 2012, 12:00 am
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