dating an older women?

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21 Oct 2012, 6:02 pm

If you all know me. You would know that I really don't get along with younger female in their 20's and early 30's.
But for some reason I never really thought about dating older women (35-50 age range). I can easily talk to older women.
of course of alot of them are married but I Have got along with some single older women as well.
I don't know. I mean I would rather date a women in her 20's but yet the same time, I tend to do better with older women.
I know that just because an older women is nice too me doesn't mean she want to have a relationship with me but I wouldn't mind a
friendship either.
So should I just wait and maybe I could get lucky and find a 20 something women that would like me or should I just try to go after older women?
and I will be in 30 in janurary

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21 Oct 2012, 6:08 pm

billiscool wrote:

Don't go after a number. Go after a name.

Who the person is really is the most important part of a human being.

Though I would say make sure that you can see yourself waking up next to her in the morning without gagging.

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21 Oct 2012, 6:56 pm

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21 Oct 2012, 11:35 pm

billiscool wrote:

I dated a girl that was 30 when I was 24. I think we were both in different stages in our lives. It almost seemed like she was looking to get married. For me it wasn't the time. I would suggest that you make sure that you both want the same things. I'm not saying that dating an older woman can't work, it just depends what your looking for. The reason our relationship ended probably wasn't so much because of the age difference but because of other reasons. Besides that we lived an hour away from eachother. It's all personal preference i guess.

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21 Oct 2012, 11:37 pm

how can you get a gf when you spend all day making threads on here?
Im as bad as you are by sitting online all day, but still.

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22 Oct 2012, 3:01 am

BlueMax wrote:

lool.

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22 Oct 2012, 3:05 am

Taverson wrote:

billiscool wrote:

Exactly what I would say, people are as young as they feel. I seem to have better success with older women and many people find that I am mature for my age anyway so I think that definitely helps.

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22 Oct 2012, 4:37 am

Wolfheart wrote:

Taverson wrote:

billiscool wrote:

Exactly what I would say, people are as young as they feel. I seem to have better success with older women and many people find that I am mature for my age anyway so I think that definitely helps.

This man is spot on.

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22 Oct 2012, 9:57 am

I've wondered this, too. For me, I'm 21, but the cutoff age is less. Generally I'll get along with a girl if she's past 27-28 or so. I dunno what I'll end up with. If I end up going to Japan, supposedly a girl is like considered unmarriable after the age of 30. So, I'm hoping I end up with an "old" (28-32 years old) and "fat" (24-25 BMI) Japanese girl.

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22 Oct 2012, 10:10 am

Older women

Yeah, I have nothing more constructive to say than that.

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22 Oct 2012, 12:29 pm

When I was <20 I dated some older women, one twice my age... All but one of them were just using me for sex.

...just as well since I wasn't mature enough for a real relationship yet anyway.

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22 Oct 2012, 3:11 pm

BlueMax wrote:

When I was <20 I dated some older women, one twice my age... All but one of them were just using me for sex.

...just as well since I wasn't mature enough for a real relationship yet anyway.

Lucky you...

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15 Nov 2012, 5:07 pm

i was thinking that i want to try dating an older woman that understands me but then it would be awkward. i mean i do feel comfortable talking to the girl i hangout with. but i don't know should i or just stay as best friends? what does sound better depending on my way of things?

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15 Nov 2012, 8:46 pm

I'm an "older woman" who is for the first time, dating a man who is ten years younger than I am. And though I have friends and family with ASD, this is my first relationship with someone with AS. I'm still sorting out how much of our obstacles are AS/NT stuff, and what are age. It is surely an interesting situation. I know that he has said that he enjoys my company as an "older woman" because I'm not quite as flighty and unreasonable as his previous girlfriends.

Keep in mind that older women may often have children. You'll have to consider what you're comfortable with. Kids can be loud and demanding. And a good woman will always put her children first.

Best of luck. Dating is an adventure.

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16 Nov 2012, 5:33 am

One thing to know is that some older women may be very aware of their internal biological clock and already in panic mode.

I once dated an older woman who was in panic mode and she "tested" me for almost a year then moved on in her quest for perfection leaving me as collateral damage(d)

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16 Nov 2012, 5:50 am

I´m not old and certainly not a grown up!
I would not date a boy, but would consider a sensible person (male) of (almost) any age. I think the age thing is more an issue in the US than it is where I come from. I do not think that 7-10 years older/younger is an issue around here.

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