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A guy clearly expresses his interest in you and keep telling you "I am still interested in you - and I'll date you any time" asks you out, would you consider this outing as date or as friends' thing?

Oh it's a date. Definitely.

thats a tough one. I dont think any ammount of answers here will give you an idea what goes in her mind. Only way to find out is to ask her or go through it and see how she acts

If you had expressed romantic inclinations towards me, then I would consider it a date. But if you just showed interest as friends, then that would be a friend asking another friend out. But I'm not NT so don't really know how they think?

im going to go offtopic here but its something i want to say. Many people here talk about NTs as if they are a completely different species. When in reality by the definition of an ASD we have very close to the same thoughts and actions. ASD is a disability in socializing. Meaning we have troubles with talking, reading people, etc. Thoughts should in theory be quite close to NT levels

MXH I agree up to a point. The problem is that he is asking us what she would consider his behaviour to be. I know as an aspie, unless the person is direct, I don't usually have a clue. I know that NT women pick things up differently/quicker. For example, I am often the last one to get a joke or to identify when people are trying to "tell me" something by way of body language or suggestive prose. AS is not just a problem with socialising. It's much more than that. In fact, for me, socialising is a side effect of my sensory issues.

She's the nurse girl btw - hmm, she rejected me when asked her out for a second time (and I told her the above after the rejection on more than one occasion).

The conversation went like:
"So not changing mind, don't you wan to see me again?" (I was thinking more of a Friday)


and she said: "Why do you want to see me?"

I replied: "You know why, why don't you want to see me?"

Her: "Why would I want to see you?"

Me: "only you can answer that"

.....

Her: "Are you free now?"


etc....and got an early dinner with her today. The date (or "date") was similar to the 1st one but with more talking from my part this time.

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I would consider it a date, but certainly be open-minded. People change their minds all the time, sometimes just to cover their feelings.

So you get dates by wearing women down until they give in for an easy life?

It will be a date from your point of view but a 'let's get this over with so hopefully he'll go away and leave me alone' thing from her point of view

How can it be anything else if she's already said no on two previous occasions??

Her 'yes' is only because you keep hectoring her and she sounds exceedingly long suffering and possibly feels sorry for you

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i think you started with an idea of a date, but just made it a social outing.
thats my biggest problem on dates, i cant get the flirting in there that NTs usually can do naturally.

She said only one no on a previous occasion.

And it's not like I expressed my interest 1000 times, they're less in nb than than one hand's fingers.




Oh booohooo waaaa booooo hoooooo bnbooooooo Translation: "She pities you - you are an evil stalking insisting guy, leave her alone you bastard! Leave the poor young woman alone!"

Not all girls pity interested guys like this and nor I am a pity element.

Now while I am typing this she's sending me texts like crazy. - she's not showing any 'pity signs'.


So your theory is most probably very false.

Lesson for you today: Don't judge too quickly.

I hope you were right, smudge =]

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postxf214298-0-45.html

Lol! You're the one on here asking for advice mate - I'm just giving it

Then I kindly ask you to refrain of giving me any advice from now on, thanks in advance.

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Lol good luck with your 'dating' then is all I can say, you'll need it!

ps: you could have at least used "maybe you sounded like...etc" or "maybe she said that because...." instead of giving final judgements (and assuming I am a bully toward someone I admire.).

Your "advice" wasn't an advice, it was a purely BS judgement about me and her intentions.