What kind of dates do you go on?

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Do you do dinner/movie dates usually?

I realize this depends on the stage of your relationship or if this is with someone you've just met etc.

Does anyone just hang out and eat food/watch movies at one or the others' house or just hang out with a group of mutual friends?

My friend is using the wifi at my house and saw this post over my shoulder as I was making it and leaned in and whispered into my ear "The rapey kind..."


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Every relationship I've had has just started with hanging out at each other's houses/apartments, or with mutual friends... I've never really been on a "date", not before I was already in a relationship with her anyway.

i wonder if that is a Canadian thing? i am Canadian too, and that was the norm. people i knew would be either friends or in a relationship (it could take many forms, from FWB to poly to monogamy, but it usually had boundaries), but people wouldn't start off going on formal dates first.

there was a survey in this subforum (i submitted my results via PM) and i realised that i have gone on very few actual "dates". none of my LTRs started out with dates. i was either already seeing a person, or i was not.

so for me, a date would be in the context of a relationship.... an example of that is... on Valentine's Day bucephalus and i visited a science museum and went to an indian restaurant for curry dishes.

Last edited by hyperlexian on 10 Mar 2013, 11:14 am, edited 1 time in total.

do not go on any-not been asked and cant even make a connection for people to get to know me to get to know me-others can do that and no problem getting dates and even more after one date/dinner(something that puzzles me).

The awesome kind.

Wait. Must there be two to be a date? Then change the answer to none

This feels so much more normal to me... just hanging out and doing almost nothing or if anything, it's not planned usually, it comes naturally.

"real" dates don't feel very personal to me.

Clearly I have to move to Canada to make my life right.

That's obvious for everyone.
But yea, I don't like the "date" scenario... there are just so many cliches, awkward moments that can happen... I mean, you're going to want to spend time with this person, and just 'hangout' right? So why not just see if that works and skip the stupid crap society prescribes as a ritual for getting together with someone

Pubs, museums, arcades and restaurants.

Usually it's best to go to a pub so you can both sit down, build a little bit of comfort, find even ground and go somewhere afterwards like a museum.

The "hangin' out at Denny's at 3am talking over bad coffee" kind.

It depends and usually a first date is going out to dinner and maybe a movie. Other dates include museums, miniature golf, jogging, going to a play or to see a comedian, etc. In the past I have cooked dinner for a date when the first few dates go well and I like the guy well.

if it's someone i knew for a while, we could hang out privately, like at home.

but if it's someone i just met, i always keep it public, safe, and local. something inexpensive where there's no distraction is best. the problem with sporting events and movies is that you don't get much time to talk to your date. while it takes pressure off to do those things, at the end of the date, you still dont know where you stand with her. i prefer a cafe usually (or a bar), so it's basically just me and her talking - that's it.

if we appreciate each other who who we are, it doesnt matter what we do. it doesnt have to be a long date. even a half hour can say a lot. if the conversation is slow, awkward and minutes are passing like hours, then we know its probably not a good match. if the time flies by fast, then i think theres potential.

I hate sitting across from someone eating food or having drinks and just talking. When I barely know someone that doesn't work. If I've known someone for long enough then the conversation has potential to be interesting rather than awkward but hardly knowing someone... it's like what do I say?

But either way... CANADAAAA YEAH

I don't see why there needs to be two... so no.

Ones with my classmates in Persona 3.

I meant two people