advice on maintaning long distance relationships

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as title....


recently met a girl (on xbox live of all places) and we both really like each other and are kinda
both crushing hard on each other, problem is she lives in Louisiana in ol US of A and i live in little ol new zealand .

spent all night in vid chat with her and she is amazing plus she has experience with AS, i dont want to ruin this and really want to make it work so advice would be great.....

I'm currently in a (somewhat) long distance relationship. However, we began the relationship when we lived closer together and now we live 4 hours apart, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
That said, I've found calling each other every few days to talk for an hour or so helps. We also visit each other about once a month. Travel from Louisiana to New Zealand and vice-versa is going to get expensive fast, but if you want to make the relationship work, you should try to spend some time together.

Hi there

Nothing wrong with meeting someone on xbox live... I myself met my boyfriend (almost four years ago) in a game called Second Life. I am in Oregon, USA and my boyfriend lives in Scotland.

The only advice I can give is setting up a routine schedule - I meet up daily with my boyfriend 9:30 a.m. and then again 10:30 p.m. my time zone. We had different times initially, but we flip them about so one of us gets a break from the late nights. It has worked for us, and we are closer than ever.

We are committed, honest about everything (even ouchie bits) and keep our times unless it is something that can not be avoided.

My family says "there are men everywhere... can't you pick one close to home?" .. no... I am quite happy the way it is going. One day, when the time is right, I will move to Scotland - quite content to "leave home"

Hope it all continues to go well for you. Not entirely sure that it was advice I gave you... but hope it was at least helpful seeing there is a durability to the long distance thing

Setting schelduled talking times is a good idea.

The biggest problem may be finding things to talk about. I know this would be a problem for me. You may have to be creative, sending each other books to read, tapes to listen to.

I suggest you try meeting up in Hawaii at one point, there has to be some less tacky/touristy parts to visit.

Just get on skype ..that way you can both see and chat to eachother and take it from there

I'm from Louisiana myself(Thibodaux/Houma area incase you heard of that from her) & I met a girl from this site(her SN's Casstranquility) from Vermont which is the other side of the country & I moved in with her there in October. So long distance relationships can defiantly work but they do have unique challenges. Traveling is a b***h(we took buses every time) but being able to be together for a while in person was very good 1ce we got more serious & decided to meet up. It's harder to be romantic online than it is in person(cant hug, don't have the experience of watching a move with them physically there) so I think it's important to be each other's friend for a while & kind of let the romance develop on it's own

Thanks for the great ideas and advice guys.