Hard to keep message conversations going on dating site

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I probably get a lot of messages and responses, but it's hard to convert those into meetings/dates. Even when it gets up to the point of agreeing to meet somewhere, something always happens, or they just suddenly stop responding.

There have been a few times when I similarly just stopped responding to someone. And it was always because I was on the fence about them anyway, and something happened that changed my mood and say "forget it." Is that what it always is, or are there other reasons?

I recently had a situation where it was hard to set up a date because I and the girls' schedules were complicated for this next week, so I gave her my number and said we should text to figure it out. It was because it appeared she misread part of my message about my schedule, and I didn't want to just repeat myself.

No response. I guess that was too forward?

No seemed pretty normal to me. After all you're not meant to keep messaging back and forth a lot just a few brief exchanges and a date should be organized if both people like each other. Don't take it to heart if she doesn't text you though. Like you, she might have on the fence about e-dating altogether.

*sigh*


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Read point #8.

The mistake that many guys do is keeping the conversation on the dating site, there she's getting bombared by many messages and she will ALWAYS...I am telling, ALWAYS find a guy who sounds 'better' than you; when that happens she would no longer respond to you.

When I get back i'll check my history on okc and try to send you (private) screenshots of real private chats/messages (of mine), to show you some of the ways I use to pull such contact infos from them.
Most convos were in Arabic but some happened in English, I'll try to find you some.

I can read Arabic a little, so I don't think it would be a problem either way. Thanks!

Damn, this girl was hot too and had the exact personality I like... I really, really hate this game.

Firstly, If a girl likes you, she will make time to see you and it depends on their enthusiasm about you as well. I have had some girls travel 30 miles from London to meet me and made a bigger effort, this is usually a good indicator they are interested.

Secondly, remember get their number as quickly as possible, be personal, stand out and close for a date like others have mentioned.

Tyrion,

Here's a conversation that happened in English (since the girl is ex-expat working here):

I am in grey, her in white.

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Some notes for you:

- It is known that you should always ask a question in the intro message but it would be best if you throw an unusual question, stay away from the mundane questions such as "what's your name?" - "how was your day?" boring things like that, women there receive tons of such questions everyday so you need to ask something bit different and unusual based on what you read on her profile.

- As you've noticed at the bottom, and that's a crucial part, I've suggested to communicate outside okcupid, but I didn't suggested a phone number and left the choice open for her, as you can see I've thrown my phone number only after she suggested whatsapp which requires a phone number. She have willingly gave me hers to add her too.

- DO NOT ever throw a phone number or skype or fb unsolicitedly - no matter how friendly and receptive she sounds.

- If you wanna reply fast to her, It is always better to reply from Okcupid App and not from a computer, that wouldn't make sound like a desperate who's waiting for a message on the computer - your phone is always with you whenever you are and she knows that. Even sometimes I've add a comment "lol, I was just checking my okcupid on phone" Or "lol I was about to log out from okc app, it was bugging me" in case I am replying after minutes to her message.

and oh.... try to use the info about her favorite foods when you suggest a place to meet!