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How can you tell if you are coming across as too stalkerish with someone you realy like. For example, is it OK to text them, and how often e.c.t.

How often you text depends on how often you see them in person. Is this someone you have gone out with or someone you would like to go out with?

Just mentioned this in another thread. Call or text once, then let them get back to you. If they don't, they're not into you. If they never initiate conversations, they're not into you. Repeatedly trying to contact them, when they're not doing the same with you will, at best, annoy them and, at worst, come across as stalkerish.

^perfect response

And of course to add to mds' statement, if you have them on Facebook and they post where they are and with who they are with, don't ask them how their night is going at x's place doing y with z (especially when they are busy at this event). That'll sure be creepy and stalkerish as well despite the fact that 100's of her friends saw this post, 10's of people clicked the like button, and a select few even commented.

^True. Odd maybe, but true.

LOL... yeah.. that would weird me out a bit

Thank you so much for all of the advice!
It's someone im interested in, not who I've been with, and I want to get to know him better without coming across as stalkerish!!
We have exchanged phone numbers, so is it ok to text him? And how do I go about initiating a conversation? Oh the joys of being an aspie haha!!

Im assuming you know this person a bit so here we go:

1) Find out what he likes.
Got that? Great move along
2) Find a reason to send a text out of the blue based on what he likes
Hey I just heard of this new indie band thats giving a show and tickets arent too pricey/ they just started a new art show in x place and I think it could be quite interesting...

3) Wait for their reply. If their reply isnt a that sounds great, maybe we could go together/similar then youve made your interest clear and Id say its his time to make a move if he is interested

Thank you so much for the advice!
He is meant to be teaching me how to rollerskate! But he works full time at a pub, and realy strange hours, and said he would have to see when he could get some time off, and I'm still waiting for him to get back to me. The problem is he has very bad OCD, and apparently doesn't like doing things in general, so It's real hard to know!

If they do not reply, you can ask them once why there is no reply.

(They could still be interested, but locked up at work, or be in stuck in the countryside with a broken car or something and wont answer you immediately. If they haven't replied in 2-3 days, then you can assume that they are not interested).

Regardless of what the situation is - messaging someone over and over again so they have 357 messages on their phone will piss them off, imagine it yourself: Someone filling up your mobile phone with 300+ "Why don't you answer me?" messages that will take you a week to delete