New to the 'dating game'!

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Just wondering if there are any words of advice for an Aspie female who has fallen for very NT male ! ! The worst part is, I hardly know him, I have however been reassured this is normal!! It's just all such a headache, people say to pay attention to his body language, evidently this is no help, and I was just wondering if any one else has had the same problem? Thank you!

I wish you all the best of luck. I for one would be so flattered and thrilled to have someone feel that way about me, as you feel about this person. I hope he would react the same, and reciprocate.

Apart from that, I have no advice to give, because I'm a miserable failure at dating, and I wouldn't want to give you bad advice. I just hope it works out for you.

Since I have no idea whether a guy likes me or not I usually get my friends to assess their body language. It helps if your friend knows the person well, do you have any NT friends that know him better than you do?

Thank you so much Brianruns10! So do I
and no, none of my friends know him, as he is a few years older. All of my friends are as ad as each other with regards to social situations- nearly as shocking as me!
The thing is Whenever I see him I get so nervous I always end up saying/ doing something stupid!
Is there any thing I should/shouldn't be doing?

All I can suggest is to take every opportunity to speak with him, maybe make a few conversations too. With a little luck and a few appropriate compliments, maybe that conversation can lead upwards?

Crushes are nice, sometimes. Here's hoping for something nice to come of it...

Thankyou, but how[i] do you go about starting conversations in that manner? would it be worth looking at social skills stuff?

If I were an expert in starting conversations I might not be single. All I can really suggest is if an opportunity presents itself - don't overthink - don't panic... just try and jump in, take that opportunity and talk. Try not to make it a big deal before OR after, mostly in your own head... it's that overthinking, paranoia and panic that holds many of us back...

I'm beginning to think it might be better to just say what you want to say, rather than hold back while worrying about the endless "what might happen if's..."

Thank you very much!
Similarly what's all this about valentines cards, I sent one, and he sent oneb ack, without knowing the card was from me- does this mean he is interested?

i would think he is interested in you.

So you've fallen for him but you hardly even know him?

Apparently so!! :S