Males - Would you wear a ring?

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13 Oct 2013, 3:58 am

I just posted in another thread joking about saving up for a ring, but that made me curious. When my ex proposed, I tried to get him a ring too (fair's fair) but he refused to wear it, saying he'd only wear the wedding band.

I see two points:

1. It's an act of love. If he can show his love with a ring, why can't I? I felt rather rebuffed when my offer to buy a ring was effectively quashed.
2. If I have to wear a sign that says "ALL MALES CAN RACK OFF, I'M TAKEN" then surely he should have to wear a "ALL FEMALES CAN RACK OFF, I'M TAKEN!".

Would you wear an engagement ring if your woman bought you one?

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13 Oct 2013, 4:30 am

I wouldn't wear one because I cant stand wearing rings. I didn't even wear my wedding band on my finger most of the time. But I did wear it on a necklace. Maybe that could be a good compromise.

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13 Oct 2013, 4:36 am

I do wear the engagement ring at times. It's sometimes too much to wear when I'm having sensory issues.

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13 Oct 2013, 4:38 am

Did he say why he wouldn't wear it?

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13 Oct 2013, 5:17 am

Marcia wrote:

Did he say why he wouldn't wear it?

Yeah, same question. You're supposed to wear it, man and woman lol.

I personally cant stand wearing rings, hats etc. and I feel I don't look good with them either but if it was an engagement ring or wedding ring then yes I'd keep it on at all times.

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13 Oct 2013, 5:23 am

Marcia wrote:

Did he say why he wouldn't wear it?

Apparently it's "not the done thing".

I can understand sensory issues, but he wore a watch all the time and wouldn't even accept an engagement watch.

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13 Oct 2013, 5:28 am

Kezzstar wrote:

Marcia wrote:

Did he say why he wouldn't wear it?

Apparently it's "not the done thing".

I can understand sensory issues, but he wore a watch all the time and wouldn't even accept an engagement watch.

Edit: yellow is correct. It's not done in old tradition. Many may not agree with that tradition now but it's still not the done thing.
If he's a sports player or in a tradesman environment he will get a fair bit of stick for wearing one. *shrug*

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13 Oct 2013, 5:31 am

Yeah, it's "not the done thing". He's being traditional and all that. Does he also behave in "gentlemanly" ways? Perhaps he feels he would cop a bit of teasing from his mates for wearing an engagement ring.

Edit: Sorry about the wording, totally missed the "ex" bit!

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13 Oct 2013, 5:33 am

JanuaryMan wrote:

Kezzstar wrote:

Marcia wrote:

Did he say why he wouldn't wear it?

Apparently it's "not the done thing".

I can understand sensory issues, but he wore a watch all the time and wouldn't even accept an engagement watch.

Uh oh...

P.S. How long have you two been together?

We were together for nearly 5 years (were going to get married on our 5 year anniversary). I dumped him a few years ago over various issues. I'm chasing another guy at the moment lol

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13 Oct 2013, 7:54 am

Only if she buys me a diamond ring $_$

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13 Oct 2013, 8:27 am

If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it

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13 Oct 2013, 8:48 am

No. Can't stand rings, bracelets, watches, necklaces, all that...

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13 Oct 2013, 9:17 am

I thought it was customary for a girl to buy the guy a necklace or chain. At least I had to but it irritated me.

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13 Oct 2013, 10:55 am

I think it's a lovely idea. If someone did that for me, I'd be really made up. Same as buying me flowers. Perhaps that's a bit sad, but that's just me.

'Rack off', lol, makes me think of Prisoner Cell Block H.

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13 Oct 2013, 12:11 pm

Kezzstar wrote:

is it a property marker or is it an act of love? your two points contradict eachother.

You don't have to wear one if you are a woman. I was married and never even got a ring because I don't wear jewelry so there was no point. I'd have liked a ring tbh, but between a ring and a house I chose house..you gotta be realistic

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13 Oct 2013, 1:50 pm

Like, duh. You can't put a house on your finger, what's the point of that? Silly

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