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07 Jan 2014, 3:00 pm

He's in hospital at the moment.

She told me that:
1) he's young and a man and will take a while to grow up (he's 31; she's 40)
2) He lives like he's in his 20s (he hasn't worked for 6 years and lived rent free with girlfriends over that time)
3) He uses sex to self-medicate himself
4) He is scared of living life
5) He never apologizes
6) He is so frugal that if people didn't help him out he's probably waste away and die and that him being so cheap is a form of self-hatred.
7) she also told me no-one can help him, he will have to find the answers himself.


Let me explain why I phoned her: He got with me and didn't tell me for a month he was still sleeping with her. He has now told me that when he leaves hospital he will probably stay with her for a couple of months to recover. I phoned her up to pass on this information myself.

What do you think he will say to me if he finds out?

She seemed quite nice to talk to and thanked me for calling her.



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07 Jan 2014, 3:09 pm

I have nothing to say other than I'm assuming this is now your ex boyfriend?



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07 Jan 2014, 4:18 pm

So yesterday you wanted people to commiserate with you on your "My Boyfriend Is A Jerk, So He Must Have Autism" thread and now you want them to pat you on the back for being a catty beyotch. You need to see a mental health counselor.

If your SO is making you unhappy, just walk away. Playing hateful games doesn't make you a better person.



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07 Jan 2014, 4:24 pm

What's the hell is HIS SECRET???



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07 Jan 2014, 4:31 pm

Willard wrote:
So yesterday you wanted people to commiserate with you on your "My Boyfriend Is A Jerk, So He Must Have Autism" thread and now you want them to pat you on the back for being a catty beyotch. You need to see a mental health counselor.

If your SO is making you unhappy, just walk away. Playing hateful games doesn't make you a better person.


Why am I catty? She told me these things and thanked me for calling her. We both needed to understand eachother's position. He had been hurting us both.



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07 Jan 2014, 5:20 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What's the hell is HIS SECRET???



Psychopathy.



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07 Jan 2014, 5:27 pm

Why exactly haven't you thrown this guy away like a live grenade? I would have broken up with him five times by now.



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07 Jan 2014, 5:29 pm

MadeUnderground wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What's the hell is HIS SECRET???



Psychopathy.

It is our most powerful tool Boo!


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07 Jan 2014, 5:37 pm

Deuterium wrote:
Why exactly haven't you thrown this guy away like a live grenade? I would have broken up with him five times by now.


To be fair I try to tell him I'd like to be single regularly, but he tells me to 'stop throwing him away', then tells me I have a mental illness. It's not the most helpful of responses.



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07 Jan 2014, 5:42 pm

is_he wrote:
Deuterium wrote:
Why exactly haven't you thrown this guy away like a live grenade? I would have broken up with him five times by now.


To be fair I try to tell him I'd like to be single regularly, but he tells me to 'stop throwing him away', then tells me I have a mental illness. It's not the most helpful of responses.


If you can't do it politely LEAVE. Or you could tell him to piss off. Is there anyone back home you could ask to get this guy to shove it?


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07 Jan 2014, 5:49 pm

appletheclown wrote:
is_he wrote:
Deuterium wrote:
Why exactly haven't you thrown this guy away like a live grenade? I would have broken up with him five times by now.


To be fair I try to tell him I'd like to be single regularly, but he tells me to 'stop throwing him away', then tells me I have a mental illness. It's not the most helpful of responses.


If you can't do it politely LEAVE. Or you could tell him to piss off. Is there anyone back home you could ask to get this guy to shove it?


He's in the hospital and he's flying to the USA on 12th Jan. He's in the UK now in hospital. Without insurance. He probably owes $1000s,



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07 Jan 2014, 5:49 pm

MadeUnderground wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What's the hell is HIS SECRET???



Psychopathy.


I've read that serial killers get female fans, so I am not surprised by your explanation.



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07 Jan 2014, 5:56 pm

is_he wrote:
To be fair I try to tell him I'd like to be single regularly, but he tells me to 'stop throwing him away', then tells me I have a mental illness. It's not the most helpful of responses.

So... you're looking for his approval to break up with him? What? You don't ask if breaking up is okay, you do it because you are fed up with the person for not meeting what you need in a relationship and they have become a negative influence in your life.



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07 Jan 2014, 5:57 pm

Deuterium wrote:
is_he wrote:
To be fair I try to tell him I'd like to be single regularly, but he tells me to 'stop throwing him away', then tells me I have a mental illness. It's not the most helpful of responses.

So... you're looking for his approval to break up with him? What? You don't ask if breaking up is okay, you do it because you are fed up with the person for not meeting what you need in a relationship and they have become a negative influence in your life.


He gets angry and interprets it as me being 'distant' rather than breaking up.



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07 Jan 2014, 6:02 pm

MadeUnderground wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
What's the hell is HIS SECRET???



Psychopathy.
Privacy?


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07 Jan 2014, 6:04 pm

Lolz