If you've ever felt bad about online dating...

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Because you didn't have a job, or lived at home, or anything like that, just know your not alone.

I'm 28, I work full time making over 50K, I'm a volunteer fireman, I own my own home, I jet ski, snow ski, travel, go out to bars, baseball games, beaches, amusement parks, like movie nights and such, and I get the same rejection that someone who has no job and lives at home does.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=28971260

Let's switch places, the f**k with the dating part .

Start smoking weed, and then tell the women you meet online that you have some to share on the first date.

Online dating is just for women to get their ego's massaged

90% of the women are fighting over 10% of men. If you are not in that 10% you have to make do with the leftovers

There is a very high proportion of single mothers whose market value is lower than a snakes belly. But even average women are celebs in the online dating world. So women tend to have an over inflated opinion of themselves due to the amount of hungry lions there are out there

Even on the date. I get that you have to be attracted to the guy but a lot of women, unless there is fireworks and angels singing and she's practically pee-ing her pants at the guy from the get go, the guy is unlikely to get a second date, never mind the opportunity to flatten some grass with the girl. So the girl brushes him aside with no more hesitation than she would brush away a street beggar.

His first date would be getting raped in the ass by a some hooligan in the prison.

I always assumed that was at least half the reason for the: "Drugs:yes/no/sometimes" profile option those stupid sites usually have.

I drive emergency equipment. If I'm in a wreck, even if it's not my fault, automatic piss test. Fail it, no bueno.

Maybe you should have a pic of you shirtless coming out of fire with a handaxe in each hand and staring like tiger, raawwr.

That's a great profile, thewhiterabbit. I honestly can't figure why you're not getting dates. Have you tried OKC? I've given up on POF because it seems horribly stagnant to me (in the sense that there is maybe one new user every few months), and populated by mostly (in my area, in my age bracket) obvious players.

And has a noble job and really good-looking with plenty of physical interests, I wish I was that interesting.

Honestly, If I was a woman or gay I would be masturbating over his profile. **Schlick schlick**

After having yet ANOTHER girl flake on me (3 out of 4) when we had a great conversation going and planned to meet, I can relate to the OP. I'm 31, in great shape, TALL, friendly and married women at work tell me over and over I'm EXACTLY what most women 30+ desire. I also point with examples out I'm great with children and want to settle down and have the maturity and means to do so. I also have a 40K/yr, highly stable job and my own car and apartment and am also a volunteer First Responder. Women seem to like (not love, but then again many are married) me in real life and the latest girl I talked to suddenly pulled her pictures and profile down minutes after I mentioned I wasn't in love with travel although I do enjoy it. What's worse is she complimented me on my writing skills and my profile repeatedly! I have to admit it's starting to make me very depressed: I have rewritten my profile several times and I have to boast that it's probably top 10-20% of the male profiles. It's funny, detailed and is pretty universal. I don't ramble about my interests or anything stereotypically Aspie and I even dropped my 'no tattoos' bit.

Now, don't get me wrong this girl would probably not have worked out long term due to the travel obsession but just to flake like that without even trying and pull her pictures? What the heck am I supposed do to? I'm starting to wonder if women aren't just intimidated or think that since I am "too good to be single" I'm probably lying. Beats me One girl admitted she felt uncomfortable when I didn't say much on a date but the other two recent contacts probably flaked because I rambled too much. Can't win! Again, it would be easier to deal with if I was a jerk, didn't have a job or everyone hated me: at least I would understand why.

I'm pretty decent at talking to people I think, not Rico Swavey, but not mute either. I think there may be some "why is he single" too. The last 1st date I went on, was a blind date, we talked for 4 1/2 hours, but she decided we didn't have much in common, which actually was true.

See I actually like to travel, and I would welcome a girl who wanted to go on a weekend trip to the amusement park, or to somewhere and relax. I know some people are turned off by it and I do understand, but I think as long as your looking for someone to go with, let's have fun.

I know that I don't exactly write the king's english, but 1.) I think if your so uptight you won't talk to someone because a comma is missing, I doubt we'd get along 2.) I do write English and not ebonics or anything.

I've narrowed my list of requirements down to 4 items

1.) Be cute Yes this is subjective, pretty much I don't like stick think or really big and I'm not huge on tattos either, but if they aren't like sleeves I can work with that.
2.) Be adventurous. We aren't going to get along if you don't' like going out or anything like that. Do you have to match everything? No, but in general.
3.) Be independent. I don't want a sugar baby
4.) Be white/asian/hispanic. I'm not racist, but I'm just not attracted to African americans.

heh, bless. Have you really looked at his profile? Hate to be down on the brother but we are all honest here right?

1- his profile statement is arrogant "I risk my life for total strangers" (and therefore you should f**k me!?) - dude, firefighters are supposed to be humble as well as ripped

which brings me to

2-he is podgy. The idea of a hot firefighter is crushed with a series of pics in which we see his tubbby tubs as well as chubby cheeks. ON the plus side, dude is cute and really would look hot if he toned up some

but the real problem is his personality

3 & 4 - what he is looking for in a relationship and his chemistry findings. Basically the whole thing is a long winded way of saying "Oh and guess what - I have autism!" (As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble.) I recognise myself in so much of it and I am the polar opposite of normal women and what most men are looking for in a woman.


The reason why you are not getting dates OP is because you are not as competitive as you think you are.

Spend some time checking out other men;s profiles; imagine you are a woman looking for a date and then look at your and other people's profiles from that perspective (if you can, I guess maybe this isn't possible for everyone to do)

The right lady IS out there for you, but you may have to revise your own perspective of yourself and what you are looking for and what you may be entitled to when it comes to what is out there.

Also, don't be too strict about the stuff to do together - think about all the things you can ONLY do with a romantic partner and then think about things you can just as easily do with a friend or a family member or even a stranger. Don't dump a potential romantic partner just because they are not into something you don't really need a romantic partner for.

And good luck.

I can see how some people might take that the wrong way. Those headlines are always difficult. I wanted something that stood out from the crowd, but I def didn't want it to be arrogant. It's supposed to convey "If this is what I'd do for a stranger, imagine what I'd do for someone I love"



Yes, that is an ongoing project. I dropped from 240-215 over the last year. That is something I am aware of and working on.



I never noticed that italic faced line in the profile. I looked at the bold faced words. Boy talk about the devil is in the details. If you could do into more details about you mean by what I'm looking for, that would be helpful. I'm not sure what you mean by that, but I def see how that chemistry results test would look bad if someone read it. -delete-



I know I can stand out in some ways, but I'm lacking in the others.

I'm actually working on the last part too.

Oh, I didn't read the chemistry results - just read the basic profile.

I have to admit, the headline struck me a little badly, too. OTOH, I'm not a 20-something NT female, and I have had two very negative experiences with firefighters - one I dated in my 20s, and one I married in my 40s. So I was trying not to project my personal negative experiences with firefighters onto whiterabbit. Part of it is that I discovered that, while I don't mind a man who is reasonably adventurous, both of the FF I was involved with were adrenaline junkies and took insanely excessive risks in their off-work hours. It was extremely stressful living with that kind of person. You might not be an adrenaline junkie, and/or other people may not find that kind of risk-taking to be as stressful as I do.

But, yeah, maybe not a bad idea to tone down the headline.

I removed the chemistry results. Curious to see if that changes anything.

Retitled it.

I would say I'm in the middle. I like to do adventurous stuff, but I also like to be safe about it. I ski, I wear a helmet, I ride a rollar coaster, I make sure the seat belts are snug before the ride attendant gets their stuff like that. It's not fun if your hurt/kill yourself.

I always welcome good advice; as they say "In a multitutde of counsulars, there is wisdom."