Calling your partner by affectionate names

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Does anyone else feel weird calling their partner names like "honey" or "babe"? I can't picture myself ever saying things like that but I still feel weird calling her by her name too.

I've never done it. Never really had a significant other for any length of time to call a name like that though. I think it'd feel kind of awkward, though. I could imagine calling someone by an affectionate nickname, though, as I've done in the past & continue to do with some people in my life. But not so much with cliche names like "sweetie," or "honey." I just don't see myself being the type to call a significant other names like that.

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Terms of endearment are weird. I do you some ("my dear", "dearest", "love") as it is important in relationships for each person to feel valued, and terms of endearment help my fiance feel valued and loved. I have tried other names that I have heard in public or on facebook, but most fall short and induce laughter. BTW "stud muffin" does not convey love and desire and indicate that you find them "hot" very well.

Find 1-2 words that you and your partner are comfortable with that convey your feelings and just use those on occasion, at least once a day. Sort of like a daily kiss, it is something that instills a sense of continued interest (I think).

My ex-girlfriend nicknamed me "The Emperor of Cheese", because I often said things she found over-sentimental (i.e. "cheesy"). I wore it with a badge of honor, though. As for the one I gave her, it was an easy choice: Princess Buttercup from "The Princess Bride". She loved that movie.

My girlfriend likes 'sweetheart' but a friend of mine (who's an academic in his sixties) calls his wife 'pussycat'.

Maybe something individual, can't really say, but I don't think I can imagine using 'babe' or honey', etc.

I don't see myself ever using terms of endearment like the ones mentioned. Perhaps something with a little humor, such as the OP's name: "Have an explosively good day at work my little Chernobyl."

Sometimes it just happens. One day they are just Jane and then something emotional happens/the relationship deepens, and the next day you are calling them Babushka Sweet-Nostrils.

It makes me wonder if its instinctive and what cave people called each other.

Babe I have trouble saying. But bae is fine with me.

Everything else I don't call people and I don't like to be called.

I never use those terms for anybody except for a comedic effect. I don't make up nicknames either.
I might use a short or longer version of their name depending on which one sounds cooler.

Sweetie, snuggle kitten, snuggle bunny, snuggles. The sillier the better. Silly is good.

I have a habit - at least this is what I was told - of being overly formal in both my manner of speech and in my prose so when one of my exes asked me to come up with a 'pet name' for them, I - just couldn't.

Embarrassingly, I agonized over it over the course of that particular relationship to the point that when I finally told them that I couldn't, I was in tears.

Some things just don't happen; this was - and is - definitely one of them.