Got crush, need advice

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I have not had any kind of physical or other intimate relationship for ... I don't want to say. It's in the multiple years column. I have not had many crushes during this time either, but I got a big one now. I barely know the person, who works in a store I go to, and then showed up at an event I attend (more than once), and seemed to be making eye contact in a friendly way, is exotically beautiful without looking fake in any way, addressed me by name. I am not good at knowing the difference between regular friendliness and a more intimate attraction. Well, I am attracted to her, and would like to get to know her and see if we could be friends or maybe more...

In the past, when younger and stupider, I used to act rashly if someone seemed to be attracted to me. I want to keep cool, for everybody's sake. But it feels so invigorating to want to get to know someone. This does not happen often for me. I don't want to blow it. Obviously, if she likes me I then have to figure out in what way, and how to handle it.

All advice welcome.

I'd say the biggest piece of advice I could offer is to follow your own advice and keep cool. Don't let on that you have a major crush on them. Just keep as cool as possible and have some friendly conversations to get to know each other a bit better. Revealing the magnitude of your crush would prrrrrrobably work against you.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

I'd suggest talking to them sooner rather than later. I don't think your chances are improved by waiting. Not that I'm all that successful with the ladies, I've been on my own for a while too, but in the past when I have had success, it has usually been when I just jumped right in without over thinking it.

I seem to make just as many mistakes either way. You may crash and burn, which is never fun, but it's easier to get over if you just rip that band-aid off.

Fast doesn't mean over the top. I agree with goldfish, keep it casual.

Yep...and ask first for a kiss LOLOLOLOLOL