Online Dating Pictures

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I now find myself single, so I went on to a dating site and I'm wondering, if it's just me or does anyone else finds the pictures on these sites amusing?
I don't know what the women's pictures are like (I don't get to see them,) but some of the shots of the men ... well. Some of them are downright scary - no smiles, just grimaces - like they have been forced at gunpoint. And then there are the selfies from a low angle - I guess that's so I can picture what he'll look like on top of me. Very considerate. And one guy is making an obscene gesture with his tongue. Great. Good to know.
So men, do women do equally enticing things in their pictures?

I don't usually see anything I would not expect from facebook. I have seen a few hand bras and implied nudity pics, but they don't seem rampant. So many duck faces though... All in all, I have been pretty disappointed in my online dating experience anyway. Too many NT individuals who find my manner of speaking off putting.

I have found this too. One guy I was really hitting it off with until I told him I had HFA. Not a word back, he just disappeared. What an ego boost.

I don't look at the guy pictures (I am smiling in all six of mine BTW) but the girls can be just as amusing (or sad) at the same time. I don't understand the ones who post a friend or two in the main picture and the friend is much hotter or even worse with guy friends. I also see plenty of black & white/low quality photos and a ton of "tourist" shots (probably half the profiles). IT ISN'T A ^%$&$% TRAVEL SITE! I suspect many of those are fake profiles given the lack of local landmarks. There was also one girl who had tonnes of gorgeous pictures (with absolutely beautiful glowing blue eyes) but used a downright ugly mugshot for her main one. WTF? Most of the women look like they have a chip on their shoulder and there are so few smiles (and lots of sarcastic grins). Come on ladies, that's probably the first thing a guy notices!

The last girl I dated was one of the few who had excellent pictures. I later found out her amateur photographer friend posted them for her. I eventually had to tell her "it's a good thing you didn't wear you hair like you did in that cover picture I would not have been able to resist you when I laid eyes on you."

I'd be pissed if someone said that to me on first date. You passive aggressively told her she looked less attractive in person.

I find the way people express themselves in pictures online -- whether it's dating sites or social media -- pretty hysterical. I guess the point is to display all the different aspects of your personality. The men who "grimace," I guess, are trying to look...I don't know, perhaps macho, bad ass and sexy.

I've been sent from pretty amusing pics from women I've met online, over the years, trying to look playful an sexy. (Some of them aroused me, I admit.) They usually look so pretentious, I can't help but laugh.

Well, I didn't say it until a couple of months in and I fail to see how a compliment could be seen as passive aggressive . I look FAR better in a suit and have been told that many times and I take that as a massive compliment. Heck, if it wasn't so awkward I would dress up for every first date! In this picture, she was dressed up at a wedding and looked stunning with her hair curled and long as opposite to tied back tightly like she normally has it. Most women do look far better in a formal dress as opposed to jeans!

Seems I can't win. If I compliment someone I am "harassing" them, if I say they aren't beautiful I am being cruel and if I say they looked amazing in their profile picture that somehow implies they are ugly. I can't figure this dating thing out.

^I thought you said it on a first date. I guess it's fine after a couple of months in.
I would still be annoyed though. I'd feel pressured to look a certain way all the time to be appreciated more.

No idea what women post since I'm about as gay as it gets.. but just thought I'd share that what gay men post is much more, ummmm.. revealing & amusing than what straight men post. IMO the best photos are face pics complete with a nice natural smile. Much more attractive than a closeup of genitals. Mind you, the "dating" sites I've browsed profiles on aren't exactly geared towards long term relationships so much as they are for casual sexual hookups, so that definitely influences things. But still, I can relate somewhat.

A lot of girls from dating sites look less attractive in person than they do on their profile pictures.

You're over analyzing. Guys don't smile much, it's not natural, it's not attractive. Guys don't really selfie much, it's more complicated than it looks.
They are NOT trying to get you to see what they'd look like on top of you. That's a weird thought and now I'm totally creeped out by my pics.
Guys are generally more direct, if they act/think like that, you'll get naked penis pics.

Yes, women do equally weird things. Women who seem to think they're fat seem to prefer head shots from a high angle. (it's a dead giveaway)
Is that so I can picture her on her knees in front of me? I doubt it.
They also seem to think pictures of their kids or cats are attractive to men.
They also seem to think a picture of a sunset rather than any of themselves is highly attractive to men.

Dating is complicated and evolution didn't prepare us for doing it online, which is usually where people that aren't very good at it end up anyhow.

I don't know about the majority of females but my profile picture is just me wearing a multicolored yarn hat and black shirt, I guess somewhat blank yet mellow expression but I can't do good false picture smiles anyways so it is what it is. I think I look better with a neutral look than trying to smile or do attractive face pose(though I don't see how people think half of those are attractive based on some I've seen).

FFS . . . another one just friend zoned me because I told him I have HFA. They must think we carry the plague.

maybe you should stop telling people that? or wait a lot longer into a relationship to disclose it?

^I agree with waiting a while into it to disclose that...then no potentially inaccurate sterotypes getting in the way of how they see you...if that makes sense.