I'm 26 in two weeks

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And I'm realising that it's going to be very, VERY likely that I'm going to spend the rest of my life alone and childless.

Yet funnily enough I still don't regret leaving my long-term relationship 3 years ago.

If you want a child it can be done. Are you alone or lonely or both? I found my children to be the most wonderful part of my life. They will share some of your characteristics and if you are lucky they will be a part of your life forever. I knew when I was still a child and long before I had them, that children were more important to me than a romantic relationship. It worked out that I found both but if I had to, I would have had the children without the partner.

You are very, VERY young. Anything is possible. Life is full of surprises.

seems to be quite a bit of aspies from Australia and its smaller then here in the us. so if you want to date maybe try getting to know some of them. if you wanting an aspie.

though to be honest not sure what your thread is seeking.

you've always been a nice poster on here though.

To be fair I'm not sure what I wanted when I made this thread either. One of my old school friends posted on facebook how she's 25 and is expecting her fourth child, and I'm still alone and childless. I don't want a relationship and marriage just for the sake of them (I want to be happy after all and give whatever children I may have the best chance) but at the same time I wonder if by doing the right thing by myself I've screwed myself out of something.

I don't want an aspie, although I wouldn't mind if I found one, I guess I just want someone. And I wonder if I'm ready for someone.

This strkes me as selfish, children deserve to have fathers, when you decide to strip them from knowing their dads, you transfer some of your loneliness on to them. If you look at certain societies in our culture you can see the devastating effect that having an absentee dad can have.

Don't take shortcuts in life, if you have pain, keep that pain to yourself.

Also, I would seriously consider adoption for aspies, considering how our condition is heritable. Giving our condition to a child is much like severing a limb or two, lacking in the social department is probably one of the worst difficulties one can have, You can seriously be inept in everything you do, but if you have a great social circle, and are wonderful around people, that creates a huge safety-net and a sense of togetherness which is integral to happiness.

But of course, no one is gong to listen to me because this world is extremely vain and selfish. If there is one thng I know about his world it's how easy it is for suffering to create a neverending chain of misery down generations.

Whatever.

When I was around 26 some dipstick of a boyfriend left me for another woman. Few after that but met Mr. Right when I was 37 and DD was born 2 years later .
Don't give up yet

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if he wasn't good for you then you made the right choice. if you found one bf its likely you're find another. If one guy liked you then theres others. I saying do it just to have a bf, but you might meat one on here and you two click. few people have met their spouses on here I think.

I get the feeling though, most my friends and people around me are having families, while i'm unloveable.

at least you have been in a romantic relationship before

Look at the bright side, you still have two weeks to have a boyfriend and a baby.

I would rather have loved and lost tan to never have loved at all, so bad that I'm strongly willing to risk having a girl cheat on me just to experience having a girlfriend