Writing Instead Of Talking

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I have a first date on Saturday and we have been texting, and everything is fine. But I have trouble communicating verbally about things that matter.

Do you think that if this goes well and after a few dates, if i disclose my issue with verbal communication someone might be open to my communicating these things in writing? Not as in hiding from them, but in just getting the words out?

Do you think this could work long-term?

What sort of things? What would be an example?

I think communicating in writing is fine, some people even prefer it that way. But you would probably be expected to go along with what you write when you meet with them.

Well, if I was upset about something, say if he had to cancel on me a couple of times in a row. It would be easier for me to clearly express that in writing to get the initial words out. Even if he was in the room and knew I needed to tell him something. I guess that is just too weird. I just have trouble with verbal communication when I'm stressed and I'm trying to figure out some coping skills that would work in relationships.

It would go the other way too. It's easier for me to express worded affection in writing rather than verbally. Physical affection I'm fine with.

If you become Facebook friends, and chat online with him, you could bring those things up at those times. Like, don't say "I need to talk about something but I need to wait until we are chatting online" (because he might stress out about it when it's not actual that big of a deal), but when you ARE online, bring it up.