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I was wondering when message a girl online like on a site such as myspace. What is the best thing to say to her that will make her want to read your message and replay to it. What is a good Subject line to write your message and what should you say in the message.

Read her profile, see what she likes, see is there anything you two have in common, ask her specific questions about her interests - i.e she likes to collect ...whatever -ask her when or how she begin doing so. Take an interest in her. Maybe compliment her on some aspect of her profile- but avoid the obvious like "You're Gorgeous" be subtle.

good luck dude

Read her profile, see what she likes, see is there anything you two have in common, ask her specific questions about her interests - i.e she likes to collect ...whatever -ask her when or how she begin doing so. Take an interest in her. Maybe compliment her on some aspect of her profile- but avoid the obvious like "You're Gorgeous" be subtle.

good luck dude

Yeah you can tell her about yourself, but be positive. Eg I like.. I'm good at..

AVOID begining too obvious straight away! Don't go stright for: Oh you're sexy (or hot or gorgeous even if she is, cause she probably hears that everyday) Instead make a compliment more specific like I like your smile, I like your hair, you've got a twinkle in your eye etc. try to make her feel special.

Always be lighthearted and friendly. Maybe you don't even need to compliment her but show an interest in what she's interested in. Read up on it if needs be.

Telling people about yourself online is something to be dealt with slowly and cautiously. Even offline, people like talking about themselves, and you may get a more positive reaction for being "a good listener" than for talking about yourself.

But online, you also don't know exactly what you're dealing with. People aren't always quite what they seem, the image they want to project may not be much like reality, and it's very hard to judge the character of people you encounter online. So until you get to know somebody quite well, you might not want to tell them anything which you'd be uncomfortable if they told other people, or if they posted their chat logs, or whatever.

It's sad to have to be careful with people that way, since most of them will probably end up being reasonably trustworthy. But the ones who aren't trustworthy can be really unpleasant, so take things slowly, and don't be in a hurry to give away personal info that you might regret.

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just to get something straight, because I'm kinda confused, what exactly is the context of this message. Not that I don't understand it, I think I do. But to be perfectly clear, I just want to make sure that I understand what you are saying.

I think what i can garner is that you are wanting advice on how to talk to women online? especially myspace correctus?

None of us, and especially those who have already beaten me to the punch, can tell you how to do it, we can just advise you in the direction you may want to go.

complementing them is always a great way to go, but say something nice to them, don't go the way that most jerks do, and say something that will obviously not give you a chance.........ever.

I can say from past experiences, is that just being yourself is the best thing you have to offer, may not sound like much, but believe me, its the best thing ever.

trust me.

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right. good thing to say Calendale.

Yeah. It was a joke. I have absolutely no idea. Frankly, I can't tell how you can see if you'd be interested in someone with such a small amount of contact. I'd suggest instead (if you MUST do this online) finding a forum which is likely to have people who share your interests. At least you have a non-threatening way of interacting with people.

Now, if you're looking for people in your area, it's a lot trickier. But, you still might get lucky with the ideas that I've mentioned.

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