Need help with overcoming desire for other women

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Now since I have a relationship, how can I get over my desire for traits in women like natural, fluffy light blonde, curly hair (even eyebrows, yeah albino eyebrows) and deep blue eyes? It still makes me anxious that they are a declining breed and I don't have any chance of meeting one, no matter how many girls I see in my life. At the same time, I really want to be with this girl for as long as possible, even spending the rest of my life with her. I don't want to have to give up my desire and say "oh well, guess I'm hopeless in my search for my perfect hot woman" but I also don't want to let the girl down. She is my life right now, but I'm having a dilemma.

Go try talking to some natural light fluffy blonde woman next time. Blonde hair is almost dying. Even many people who look like real blondes are actually brunettes. Real true blondes are more likely to have distinctly albino-like eyebrows and other cool features.

I'm not being a racist now, either.

keep the girl you have, but fantasize about your ideal.

I want to have more than just fantasize about it. Also, why is it when you die and go to Heaven or the afterlife, Christians I grew up with say you can't have Earthly desires fulfilled, like sex, relationships etc.? Sorry if I sound like I changed the subject.

If you develop actual "love", you're paraphilias will change towards what the other person is like.

Until then, porn. You'll probably get in trouble or do something you'll regret without it.

Be thankful for what you have.

This thing popped up and smacked me in the face yesterday.

Hey Kelly: you're a red-blooded man. Your desires are quite normal. Just don't tell your main squeeze about them!

Keep the girl you have now. I had specific preferences and they were turned on their heads when I got into a long distance relationship. He wasn't anything close to my ideal...a little chubby, short (exactly my height), teeth crooked beyond hope, not very hygienic, and a very sunny, goofy, simple personality. I had a preference for elegant roses and fell in love with a banana. Six months into the relationship, my preferences evolved to men who looked like him (we've been an item for a year and a half now btw)

Too be honest you sound pretty crazy to me. This whole OCD-like colour preference thing you have sounds nuts and infantile to me. Topic after topic after topic and you can't get over the fact that the person you love doesn't have the exact hair color your 'ideal' mate would have. The thing isn't even that you have a preference (many people do) but you keep going on about it, can't get over it, literally your entire life revolves around finding this type of woman.