Help, this might become a problem!

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I have a crush on this girl in my class but there seems to be a problem.

I get depressed whenever she's away or on weekends. I can't see her anymore which makes me sad I suppose. This might be a serious problem because the summer break is approaching.

Any advice?

Just do constructive stuff. Have fun. Do lots of Internet research. Increase your knowledge base.

You'll see her again on Monday. You'll have lots to talk about then.

Try to become her friend or more so you can talk to her or see her on weekends & during the summer.

Be aware that if you get depressed, it is not because of her, but because of yourself.
That it is not normal to link your own mental and emotional state so much to one person.

Your emotional life is still a bit too much "terra incognita" for you. You think you need an external reason for getting depressed, but actually it has a lot to do with you and your personality that still needs to develop.

Your sadness is more general. Although there are enough things in this world to make one sad, there is also enough reason for hope.

It takes time to sort things out. Be patient with yourself.

Practical advise for the holidays: stay a lot around other people, also just in the park,library or coffee bar, so with nearly no interaction; write some letters to her (you neednt send them), but not to much; try to distract yourself at times.

All the best.

They are 12 :p

OP: ask her if she wants to meet up over summer

I see.

The library sounds nice, however most people that go there are adults and in spite of the traditional "be quiet" rule in the library, people are very loud. Although, I like the library.

The park doesn't usually have a lot of people where I live so that is not an option. A coffee bar has a extremely large concentration of adults not to mention pedophiles and criminals using the WiFi and my parents don't allow me to drink coffee because I crave sugar and caffeine.

Why should I write her letters if I'm not going to send them?

By the way: I have her cellphone number and her address.

She gave you her phone number? Under what circumstances?

If the circumstances weren't class-rated, you could definitely call her up. But only if you agree in advance in person.

Some other posters didn't know your age. That's why they offered the usual advice for older teens and adults.

She didn't give me her phone number I was able to find her cellphone number (I believe she has a iPhone). For the record, no hacking was involved in this, I obtained the information completely legally. I obtained her address because a phone in just a GPS that can make calls and with very little research you can find the address (the address isn't useful).

I'm not a fan of calling, I haven't really texted before (as I have no need for a phone but may get one in order to exchange calls) but I can send SMS via computer, I'm sure there are some apps in the Ubuntu Software Center.

I'm just worried this might become a problem this summer and next summer because she is going to a different high school. I am also very shy and don't know how she'll react to this.

Have you had much contact with her in class? Have you had many conversations outside of school?

She seems like she's at least a year older than you. If in a "normal"'school path, you'd be going to Grade 7 or 8. This is unless she has skipped grades.

I would definitely not call her--she would find that creepy.

I hope all goes well with you with her. Even if she doesn't return your regard for her, you have plenty of time. There are also many more girls for you to meet.

I figured.

She is currently in Grade 7 and I am currently in Grade 6. So she will be graduating next year.

One of your questions is a tad ambiguous. By "Have you had many conversations outside of school?"do you mean conversations not related to school? Or do you mean conversations outside of school? I'll answer both.

The only conversation we had outside of school (of late) is the one on the bus and after that conversation I posted the "Was she for real?" thread.

We've had many non-school related conversations. She asks me about my plans for the future and also asks if I'm going to go to high school. She will also ask me why I don't talk so much anymore (for the record I used to talk a lot about math, physics and logic and bullying was a bit of a problem so I stopped). Sometimes she'll also ask me how my day was or how I'm doing and then, in order to be socially reciprocal, I ask her.
To be honest we don't have much dialogue period.

In class, sometimes I help her with her work voluntarily.

Seems like she's interested enough in you though. At least as a friend. Point is, sometimes SHE talks to YOU first. take this as a good sign. You already start at an advantage - some people their crush never spoke to them at all first so they had to approach them.

Anyway, just keep trying to talk more and get to know her. For now. That just the beginning but check back with us when things going well.

Oh for God's sake kid ask her out on a date already

I believe 12 is way too young to be dating. I just like her and am worried about my emotional state during this summer. There is 1 week of school left, I am writing this during class because we are watching a movie. She is texting on her phone near me.

Well...talk to her, be her friend. You don't have to date her.

It's great when one could establish a friendship, then date later.

It leads to a more substantive relationship.

If you feel comfortable with the letters: send them.