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22 Aug 2015, 4:38 am

Do any girl here use instances where they have been chatted up, to then retell to their boyfriends (or girlfriends) in order to paint themselves in a desirable light, or to make him jealous. Or do any girls do this, without realising they are doing it.
This question comes from a conversation i recently had with a boyfriend of someone i work with who i think was quite upset by it.


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22 Aug 2015, 5:59 am

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Do any girl here use instances where they have been chatted up, to then retell to their boyfriends (or girlfriends) in order to paint themselves in a desirable light, or to make him jealous. Or do any girls do this, without realising they are doing it.
This question comes from a conversation i recently had with a boyfriend of someone i work with who i think was quite upset by it.


People do all sorts of things all the time - sometimes intentionally, sometimes not.

A possessive, over-entitled, insecure asshat may well think that his GF talking to any male person is doing so to make him jealous - even though she's not.

A GF who is unhappy may be super flirt w/other dudes hoping that her BF will spare her the hassle of dumping his ass.

An immature GF may well flirt with other guys to at headgamrs w/her BF.



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22 Aug 2015, 6:12 am

Yep, people do do things for all sorts of reasons.


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22 Aug 2015, 6:26 am

An ex-friend of mine used to do the same thing with her boyfriend all the time. She would always tell him what a man said to her, or if she was being checked out, and then beg him not to be mad. She did it in the right way to get him annoyed enough that he'd storm off. I never understood why she did it. If something like that happened, I'd just tell my husband straight-up in a normal way. I don't get what the issue is, or what there is to be jealous about.



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22 Aug 2015, 6:35 am

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An ex-friend of mine used to do the same thing with her boyfriend all the time. She would always tell him what a man said to her, or if she was being checked out, and then beg him not to be mad. She did it in the right way to get him annoyed enough that he'd storm off. I never understood why she did it. If something like that happened, I'd just tell my husband straight-up in a normal way. I don't get what the issue is, or what there is to be jealous about.


I guess don't want to think of someone on their territory, or that their girlfriend encouraged it and liked it. Or that she is in anyway promiscuous unless he is at the receiving end of her affections. It's quite incendiary stuff, easy to say in a way that unsettles a guy, just by how its phrased or tone of voice. Saying as you do, quite matter of factly, makes it more of a conversation topic than anything else.


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22 Aug 2015, 6:37 am

One would expect from nature that'd happen more often. Shouldn't it be the most satisfying thing for a highly desirable female to get males to fight each other to the death over her?


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22 Aug 2015, 6:47 am

It's probably just an insecurity thing, where it's a morbid way of proving their love, or some crap like that. "lyk, omg, he's jeluz and stuff. I suddenly matter more! Hehehehe."



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22 Aug 2015, 7:03 am

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It's probably just an insecurity thing, where it's a morbid way of proving their love, or some crap like that. "lyk, omg, he's jeluz and stuff. I suddenly matter more! Hehehehe."


Your probs right, wonder if she would do it more or less if she knew how much it bothered him.


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22 Aug 2015, 7:59 am

InsomniaGrl wrote:
Do any girl here use instances where they have been chatted up, to then retell to their boyfriends (or girlfriends) in order to paint themselves in a desirable light, or to make him jealous. Or do any girls do this, without realising they are doing it.
This question comes from a conversation i recently had with a boyfriend of someone i work with who i think was quite upset by it.

Those girls are called manipulative parasites.



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22 Aug 2015, 8:10 am

CommanderKeen wrote:
InsomniaGrl wrote:
Do any girl here use instances where they have been chatted up, to then retell to their boyfriends (or girlfriends) in order to paint themselves in a desirable light, or to make him jealous. Or do any girls do this, without realising they are doing it.
This question comes from a conversation i recently had with a boyfriend of someone i work with who i think was quite upset by it.

Those girls are called manipulative parasites.


So the girls are trying to make boys jealous manipulatively?


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22 Aug 2015, 8:11 am

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CommanderKeen wrote:
InsomniaGrl wrote:
Do any girl here use instances where they have been chatted up, to then retell to their boyfriends (or girlfriends) in order to paint themselves in a desirable light, or to make him jealous. Or do any girls do this, without realising they are doing it.
This question comes from a conversation i recently had with a boyfriend of someone i work with who i think was quite upset by it.

Those girls are called manipulative parasites.


So the girls are trying to make boys jealous manipulatively?

I've met a lot of girls where that is the case. Keep in mind, I do live in Baltimore where the quality of people is pretty low.



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22 Aug 2015, 8:21 am

CommanderKeen wrote:
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CommanderKeen wrote:
InsomniaGrl wrote:
Do any girl here use instances where they have been chatted up, to then retell to their boyfriends (or girlfriends) in order to paint themselves in a desirable light, or to make him jealous. Or do any girls do this, without realising they are doing it.
This question comes from a conversation i recently had with a boyfriend of someone i work with who i think was quite upset by it.

Those girls are called manipulative parasites.


So the girls are trying to make boys jealous manipulatively?

I've met a lot of girls where that is the case. Keep in mind, I do live in Baltimore where the quality of people is pretty low.


What do mean "quality of people"? Do you mean their personality?


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22 Aug 2015, 8:24 am

There may be some nice girls who have no idea how to torture guys, for example, like ME. :D


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22 Aug 2015, 8:33 am

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There may be some nice girls who have no idea how to torture guys, for example, like ME. :D


*Hugs for being cute*


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22 Aug 2015, 8:35 am

Aspie202 wrote:
CommanderKeen wrote:
InsomniaGrl wrote:
Do any girl here use instances where they have been chatted up, to then retell to their boyfriends (or girlfriends) in order to paint themselves in a desirable light, or to make him jealous. Or do any girls do this, without realising they are doing it.
This question comes from a conversation i recently had with a boyfriend of someone i work with who i think was quite upset by it.

Those girls are called manipulative parasites.


So the girls are trying to make boys jealous manipulatively?


Sometimes. Boys do it too.

But based on the info you've provided about your friend, there is no way to tell if:

1. His GF is chatting up other guys to make him jealous

Or

2. Your friend is a possessive, paranoid creep who freaks out for no reason because his lovely GF happens to have male friends, thus interpreting his GF's perfectly reasonable behavior as "trying to make him jealous".



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22 Aug 2015, 8:36 am

yeah.. I am rather cute. hehe


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