Now I'm confused and I don't be that often...

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Nowadays I'm single, learning how to care for myself, I suddenly got a invitation to spend the easter with a woman I hoped I'd never meet again after a seduction attempt. I have a nice relationship with my ex, and nothing says we won't get together again, but I'm puzzled, I thought I'd know how to handle these things, but it just froze for me. I'd like to spend the easter weekend with her, but not in her bed, just as a friend she seems to have easy to talk with, because I'm frank and has no trouble to talk about private things. I even bought her latest pregnancy test for her.

But now I'm actually concidering changing both email and phone numbers. Of course, I'd happily jump to her bed, because she's a bombshell blonde, but I have other obligations that are more important, three of them even, She has four.

I'm not used to these situations... HELP! Technicaly It's alright, since I'm no longer in a relationship, but morally I get red flags raised all over my mind..

I get a alarm bell ringing that I'm about to be used to simply fix her echonomy for sex. I'm not a rich guy, I have a rent to pay, and a maintenance almost as high as my rent.

Why not tell her how and why you're confused? Just talking it over might help both of you. 'Course, you STILL might end up in her bed.

It's not just that easy since she's in a steady relation already so it's a bit of a dilemma there too... I don't want to step into a relationship with somebody already in a relation. Him in the relation is also the father of her fourth, that I bought the pregnancy test for... So I'm in realy deep troublesome water here... already...

Well I've thought it over a bit and I will simply go to a healthy vacation 200km away over the easter. Simplifies a lot of things. "Gone Fishing".... I was also invited to spend the easter with my ex and my kids to even more stress things, so now I'm on the run to get some peace, as soon as I am done with the laundry. Thank god I have a DSL pipe and my laptop where I'm going....

Yeah, you've gotta just give some up sometimes.

I think you've made the right decision...run...and run fast.

Although she may seem nice....it sounds like this woman has herself in a situation that could cause you alot more stress than you need right about now.

Some people you just have to stay outside the blast radius. This sounds like such a woman.


Good choice.


Good luck.

Yes, yes! Go fishing! Go anywhere rather than be the man she turns to when she's having problems with her current relationship. You've made the right decision. Doesn't matter that you were confused. Confusion is a wonderful thing- it tends to act as a Stop sign that makes you look both ways before crossing.

Honestly, the way some women behave toward men sometimes makes me ashamed of my gender, so I don't think the last post was too harsh at all, not a bit.

I find it's best to stay away from people who have messy, complicated lives. Have fun going "fishing!"

Yeah.

run. fast. far. as in out of state and move out, and in the process change your numbers and email stuff as well. then file a restraining order.

I was honest with my ex and told her what had happened and why I fled the battlezone, and she just said I do the right thing for the moment. Irritating thing is that we (now I say we again) have children in the same school, so my ex and this woman meet almost every day. And my ex said that she get's "if looks could kill" from the woman. SO I'M GONE FISHING!

And ZanneMarie, You're absolute right about your words, and it was not harsh. It was just plain logical facts. I'm 37 so I know whats reality and what's not, just that sometimes you need to be shaken a bit to scramble bits'n'pieces in place.

Thank you for all your answers, now I know I probably did the right thing.

aye. don't become the whatever the term that is used in relationships when the person dumps someone and then goes to that other person.

but don't worry bro, things will work out.

No TV, nothing but my ice fishing rods, a chainsaw, some trees needing to get pulled out after the snow and wind has cracked them... peace... and the only person knowing where I am and my cellular phone number is my ex and the neighbours 1000 meters away to the closest one.

It's not that I doesn't like the chick, It's just that I can't accept in my mind the way's she's trying to conquer me. It annoyes me. It's like a pain in the back!

I've even grown my hair for a year to retro-fit a hair I had when my oldest was born just to scare her off, and when I heard she thought long hair sexy I decided I'd cut my hair in the most extreme synth way I can think of because she's a black metal fan. Thank god my hairdresser know how I've looked in the past "before I got polite and polished" so she knows exactly what I'm looking for (I don't care. In my profession I could have blue hair with spikes and nobody would consider it odd)

Sigh. These problems with women..... You can't live without them and with some you can't live with.

You don't tip over my ex that easy, She's a woman with two steady feet in the soil, and her brothers has utter respect for her. So I'm not the least worried for her ability to handle that woman. B'sides she has a language that is not appropriate for teens and can verbaly strip away your verbal protection, so I'm not the least worried.

Make it a compilation of édika and gaston with a touch of captain haddock and toss in marsipulami in the mess and you have a real "rogntudjuuu" (I still love her but not enough to live with her)