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Nathaniel75
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16 Sep 2015, 3:31 am

Magnificent ladies and gentlemen,

I have the particular and peculiar problem of getting a third date. Getting a first date is easy, but for some reason on the second date I have had a 100% incidence of one of us not liking the other. Do any of you know what might be the problem? Usually I like her or she likes me, but apparently never both. Is this perhaps aspieness being a barrier to a true connection? I've had much better luck with AS ladies than NT ones: is it possible that ultimately I am just not compatible with NT women?



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16 Sep 2015, 4:21 am

It doesn't have to mean anything. It could just be that this is how it turned out every time, because one didn't like the other.



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16 Sep 2015, 4:32 am

Earthling wrote:
It doesn't have to mean anything. It could just be that this is how it turned out every time, because one didn't like the other.


A good point. Perhaps this is just my aspieness, trying to find meaning in every pattern :)



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16 Sep 2015, 4:34 am

Earthling wrote:
A good point. Perhaps this is just my aspieness, trying to find meaning in every pattern
I agree with you. Try not to do that when especially it comes to human's emotion..


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16 Sep 2015, 11:26 am

Nathaniel75 wrote:
Magnificent ladies and gentlemen,

I have the particular and peculiar problem of getting a third date. Getting a first date is easy, but for some reason on the second date I have had a 100% incidence of one of us not liking the other. Do any of you know what might be the problem? Usually I like her or she likes me, but apparently never both. Is this perhaps aspieness being a barrier to a true connection? I've had much better luck with AS ladies than NT ones: is it possible that ultimately I am just not compatible with NT women?


How many first dates have you been on in the past six months? How many of the girls did you know in person when you asked them out versus internet dates?



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16 Sep 2015, 1:37 pm

Anything's possible... :P I wouldn't say I'm only compatible with aspie girls but I sure don't understand 'normal' ones. I certainly have the option of going back to a more ordinary dating life, I just prefer being patient and 'generous to a fault', I live in the wild west after all...


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16 Sep 2015, 4:48 pm

I am not Magnificent.