Is it going to happen?

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Many times when my family and friends tell me that I will get a girlfriend and fall in love with someone forever. Is it this true? I know it sounds conspiracy to me because it like wouldn't observe to prove there is an UFO out there. This seems coincidental.

I am only 24 and dateless virgin. Active social life and always do things away from being home alone. That how my family and friends say this I will get it positively. They are all NTs, and they are positive in me of getting one as the time comes. This seems really prove that they do not seek my ASD as an issue of not getting one.

Do anyone experience this same thing?

They are old-fashioned and believe in that non-existent lifelong love.
My parents are confident about me getting a girlfriend, but they are more realistic. I don't discuss this issue with them.

My family members used to ask me "So, do you have a girlfriend yet?" at family gatherings.
But I think they have noticed that it's an uncomfortable topic.

"It'll happen" is a pleasantry. There are no guarantees for anybody.

Have you considered asking your friends and family to introduce you to some single girls?

For millions of times I said to everyone I am socially active where there always females are around especially around my age. I am active sports player, plays social sports every week, member of uni student clubs - the environmental like minded clubs and am member for Meetup.com events that I go every single week. I am everywhere, if you live in my city you will see me every week or so!

What I'm doing is wrong? I have no idea. I tried by asking her out at end of same day of meeting first time. That didn't work. I also tried asking her out later on after being friends for weeks or so. That didn't work either. It limitless. What I get turned downs are: sorry I have a boyfriend, sorry I already get a date, sorry I am not interested, sorry I don't want a relationship, sorry I don't like you..............and so on. What I believe I am getting white lies.

So how I am getting this all wrong when I tried so many different ways?

ask a good friend what they see in you that may be getting in your way. perhaps ask the girl who made the offer to set you up with her friend.

As soon as you stop thinking of yourself as a "dateless virgin," girls will come flocking to you.

You're doing all the right things.

What?

Thinking of me as dateless virgin? How possible women knows I think of this. No one is supernatural human being. It too impossible to read people minds like this.

Can't believe I am cursed in this situation. I thought I am having a great time, then at the end it killed me.

My opinion is, really, that you're an intelligent guy who has accomplished much.

Obviously, I can't guarantee anything--no way--I'm just an data-entry clerk, not a relationship expert.

I think you're doing the right things. I think your time will come.

Talking to a counselor wouldn't hurt. Even so-called "normal" people go to therapists.

Use a professional matchmaker serving the neurodiverse community?

I'm in my early 30's and just now have the social knowledge to be comfortable dating. I think it takes longer for aspies to mature socially. However, it is not impossible. You can learn from your mistakes and get better at it with help.

One thing I will say is that being anxious about dating is off putting to potential dates. Perhaps find someone to give you pointers so you can get more confident in your ability to attract a mate. My social coaches have always been friends. They taught me to notice signs of interest and some of the unwritten rules of dating. Do you have anyone like that in your life?

By the way, being a virgin is not a deal breaker if a woman likes you.

I don't have money to hire a social or dating coach to be honest! it sounds as worse as hiring a sex worker whose help your sexuality.

I always thought women prefer a guy who already had sex because its charismatic attitudes. I thought I have this attitude since I am intelligent, funny and good guy. I don't know what women want these days.