Wondering if I should try again with her

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I met a girl 3 weeks ago on a dating app and was pretty surprised cause i wasnt really expecting anyone to even be interested in me. I had actually seen her a couple of times at college too so that made me feel better that it wasnt a spam account or whatever. We had a couple of good conversations over the first week and then I asked if she would want to meet sometime. I was really excited when she said yes and I asked her if she wanted to meet that Friday. For some reason she didnt respond so a few days later I asked again in case she didnt see my message. She still didnt respond and it has been almost 2 weeks now. I dont wanna make her think I am clingy or dependent so I havent messaged her since. Seeing as she is the only girl to show an interest in me I am hoping to try again but I dont know if I should.

What the hell has she been doing to you, ghosting for two weeks? She needs to be jailed for making you spend your precious time and energy on nothing. She had to say to you "no" before being silent instead of saying "yes"
Don't try again, even if she contacts you later don't respond her. IMO she's a typical selfish b***h.
So are you gonna be mad at me because I am mad at her..don't do that please..She's a mean girl I can see that.

Drawyers got some fangs

Yeah, I'd probably just let it go at this point. Very doubtful that she's still interested

Well it is certainly possible something could have come up...and she still intends to get back in contact. It could also be she wasn't really all that interested but hard to say either way. I know sometimes I've taken a while to respond to an initial message before mostly because I get side tracked, busy or simply am not online...or maybe I don't know what to say/how I want to proceed so I try and work that out and then come back to it when I remember.

But not sure what to think if they have responded positively and now you haven't heard anything else from them.

If someone who I said clearly "no" keeps trying to contact me, I ignore him for his sake as he needs to learn how to let a woman go. But I think a person should remind themselves more seriously that if he/she didn't answer clearly that could cause someone's life ruin completely forcing him/herself consuming inside. How could a person do that to another? At least for me that's something like killing someone.

I can see you sending a second message just to make sure she got it, but a third is going to look like you're desperate.

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Another one of the main problems with dating sites is that everybody thinks that they're hot-and-desirable(although semi-ugly women get away with this delusion). Probably true if they're on there in the first place.

What I don't understand is when she already knew that he's waiting for her answer, why she just didn't respond him..why did she make him wait unnecessarily. I couldn't do that because I respect the other's life. The least thing I want is to be a causer of ruining someone's even most trivial routines. In my eyes it's highly possible that she already knew how much he liked her but still she thought it's okay with him being tortured for two weeks. I would never do that regardless which stage the relationship is in.

Hehehe..I don't know...hehe..

I would message her again. Ask her if she wants to get together in a nice way.

Or maybe you'll be lucky to see her in college again. If so, I would just talk to her like you've been talking to her.