Dating Site Reviews

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I haven't had any luck with dating sites, but I've been on enough of them to at least let people know which ones are worth using. So, here's my take:

Christian Mingle: First dating site I ever used. It's a paid membership site, so I forked up for a month's membership without even thinking about it. Talked to a couple girls but didn't go on any dates. Then I started getting emails from other dating sites thanking me for signing up with them. Somehow or another, these sites got my information, including my bank information, off CM and were signing me up for paid memberships on their sites. I called Christian Mingle, yelled at them for a good ten minutes, and made them cancel my membership. Suddenly, all the other emails stopped too. Can't really weigh in on the site itself because I didn't get much chance to use it. Bottom line: stay away.

OKCupid: Very well built site. The Matches page tells you what your Friend/Enemy percent is, along with the city they live in-- a huge plus, if you don't want to waste your time looking at people who live in a different state. You can "like" a user's profile after reading it, and if they've liked yours back you'll both get a notification. Messaging is a breeze since they have a little chat panel in the bottom right corner, similar to what Facebook uses. My favorite part of the site is that they have literally thousands of survey questions you can answer, ranging from your hobbies, your religion, your opinions on sex, and you can look at the other users' answers by viewing their profiles. This is extremely handy, because you might like what someone's got written about themselves but then find something you really, really don't like in their questions, thereby saving you the time and effort of having to get into a conversation and found out later. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are many people on there. As of right now, I can open up my matches page and I'll only have 5-6 profiles show up. The Quickmatch page could be helpful, but it tends to only show people who live hundreds of miles away from me. So, good site that doesn't have enough members. Go ahead and join, it's free so you've got nothing to lose.

Plenty of Fish: Easily the biggest dating site I'm part of. There are dozens of girls in my area, and they're not just abandoned accounts. Unfortunately, the way the site is built leaves a lot to be desired, especially after how impressive OKC is. Just by perusing the match page, you get absolutely no info on the other user except for a look at their main picture. You have to open their profile in order to read about them and see where they live. It doesn't sound like such a big deal until you realize that, for whatever reason, most of your matches live nowhere close to you. It's true that there are tons of people in my area, so why is it showing me Lookn4Luv69 who lives all the way in freaking California? Things are a little better in the Ultra Match tab, which claims it narrows your matches down to only those who are absolutely, definitely, undeniably good matches for you. Maybe it's just where I live, though, but these "matches" don't really seem like good... matches. I like to read, write, and play video games, but all I ever see are people who like hunting, fishing, pickup trucks, and football, so like I said, maybe it's just me. The lack of information from the match listings leads to a lot of wasted time. Since you can't see their names, you'll spend a lot of time clicking on them and then backing out again because you've already looked at her five times this week. You just didn't remember because THE SITE MAKES NO EFFORT TO TELL YOU THAT. Wait, what about this girl? She seems familiar, but you don't remember for sure. Have you messaged her yet? In OKC all you have to do is open the messages tab and any conversations you've sent to her are right there for you to see. PoF doesn't have this, they have a "Leave a Quick Message!" box with a send button beneath it. You can either try your luck and risk sending them a second message introducing yourself twice in one week, thereby convincing them you're either an idiot or a stalker, or you can comb through your list of sent messages to see if they're anywhere on there. It's 100% free to use, though, so I guess I can't complain too much. Bottom line: I've had more success on this site just because of its sheer numbers, but it could be way, way more user friendly.

Tinder: Is this even a dating app? Most people say it's only for hookups, but 99% of the profiles I see have some version of "I Want Love, Not A One Night Stand!" in it. Anyway, you probably know how it works already. You swipe right if you like them, left if you don't, and they do the same. If you both swipe right, you can send messages to each other. I have even worse luck on here than I do on OKC, though, which is sad because there are potentially even more people on here than on PoF. You can swipe right all day long, but unless you've got a six pack you'll probably only get matches from desperate weirdos and spam bots. Oh yeah, there are tons of those, but they're easy to pick out because they'll ask for your credit card numbers almost immediately off the bat. They're so common that I'll actually swipe left on most of the really pretty girls' profiles just in case they're bots. I mean, it's not like they're gonna swipe right for you anyway, so... Bottom line: if you have a six pack, swag, and weed to share, Tinder will probably serve you just fine. Everyone else, might be worth a try but don't get your hopes up.

Hope this helps!

Okc: Sucks.

POF: Sucks.

Tinder:Sucks.

Hope that helps!

Eharmony is rubbish and only wants your money

POF is really badly designed.

I like that ok cupid has the questions because it tells you more about a person than just what their profile says

I can't comment on Christian Mingle, as I've never tried that. However, I've tried the other three, and am active on two of them.
OKCupid: Their website isn't bad, and their Android app used to be pretty good. The latest version of is slightly awkward, but not a deal-breaker. The match percentage is hit-or-miss with some folks. Within the past few years, the opened up the gender options and allowed users to select multiple options among them. Where OKC really shines (to me, anyway) is its options for sexuality and what a user seeks (long- and short-term dating, new friends, and/or casual sex). It even has options for pets and dietary quirks. Don't want to date a vegan? No problem. It also has an option for whether or not a user has, or wants, children. These options help weed out people that would otherwise be a waste of time. As with most sites, geography is a harsh mistress there. There are plenty of active users in my area, but very few that interest me. Most of those are at least 150 miles away.
Tinder: Hours of mindless Hot-or-not-esque entertainment. Quantity is huge, but quality is nil. For a 'hookup' app, it's quite amusing/befuddling/discouraging to see so many profiles that say 'no hookups.' That's like a bad rv park or something. Most of the people I've run across there are either prudes, or so aloof that they never respond to messages.
Plentyoffish: Unless you're a straight, cis, marriage oriented person, this one is a waste of time. Most of the folks I saw on there wanted someone to marry and someone to conceive their future children. Deleting an account there is not exactly easy, either.
Meetme: Kinda like Tinder with it's Match feature (which is only available on the mobile app nowadays, and often still plagued by fake users) and kinda like facebook with its posting and commenting setup, this one isn't very popular, and has more than its share of single mothers looking for a man. Not my thing.
Grindr (mainly for gay men, but trans folks are on there, too) :I've mixed feelings about this one. It's not a 'dating' site, but it has netted me quite a few friends over the years. It has a few issues. Blank profiles are plentiful, as are profiles with non-face pictures (landscapes, manscapes, etc). It's not uncommon to have a picture of genitalia sent instead of a greeting message. Yes, folks on there are often shallow. They can also be rather fragile, especially after getting rejected because the above mentioned adult pictures. Like OKC, it allows users to state what they seek (right now, chat, new friends, long-term relationship... I can't remember all the options). There are plenty of guys (and trans women) on there, but the users are few and far between outside of large cities.
Teadate (for trans and trans-attracted people): Right now, this one mostly suffers from lack of users. It looks like it's set up similarly to Tinder, but time will tell if it'll gain enough traction to be viable.

I would say Eharmony is the biggest crock of all. I heard they actually removed last activity date for profiles so users are stuck being matched and messaging dead profiles and have no idea who's coming and who's going. Okcupid has amazing design with so much information available to users but with the terrible users it has who don't take it seriously, that makes it moot. Match.com has better users but awful design with vague profiles. Plentyoffish is like the garbage disposal of online dating There's really no winning in online dating, really.

I found okcupid to work best for me, and I'd say I liked its format the most of any others I looked at I also like you're not limited to the match system you can use that but you can also just browse all the profiles within a certain area as well. I also tried POF and I absolutely hated the format of that the only messeges I got were from guys living way across the country in other states. The downside to okcupid is there are quite a few people just looking for hook ups and such so my advice would be if you're looking for a real relationship try and get to know a person like go spend time in person with them a few times before getting intimate, at least if I could go back and do it over that's what I'd do as I imagine it would eliminated the times I got led on.

never tried eharmony as I didn't have money to spend there, also I always got the impression it was more for professionally upper-class people..

Christian mingle is not one I ever thought to try as I am definitely not a Christian.

I think OkC can work if you have odd preferences, and express them too. That appears to link you up with at least some neurodiverse people. Match.com cannot be serious because even without filling out any information at all or even posting a picture, it still matches you with people.

They all create fake female profiles to make the sex ratio looks good, they're all lying.


I have a proof that Bumble does so - Bumble claims to be the only dating app that obliges the females to initiate first; while men can't - very nice idea, I love it, except it's full of fakes.

All pictures of models with perfect tan who all work as "CEO" or "Owner" or self-employed from top universities ..... give me a break.

And despite I live in Lebanon, all profiles were from American/UK universities yet claiming to be living here....what?

Here lemme make a tour for you:

Trident Technical College graduate (as per google it's in South Carolina).....on a Private Yakht; and living in Lebanon- so believable.




University of Leeds.....but why would she be here?






Oh look, what we have here? A Hollywood version of Cleopatra and her loyal servants? And again from an American university and living in lebanon? (3rd profile in a row) What a coincidence!



Oh finally...not a graduate from abroad......but what is a "Freelance TV producer"? How a TV producer can be a freelance? Sleeping on some ocean of cash maybe?



Those are all Universities that I have never heard of in my life.



Bahahah "University of Texas" .... now suddenly my area is full of American blondes.





I mean, how can it be that all these profiles appearing in row are all coincidentally from foreign universities? Something is very odd.




Wow....another Texan smart beauty! And she's coming here to date me in a helicopter!



What's that? A dating profile or a wine ad? Very convincing.




Oh...she 's an owner .......I think her secretary keeps taking tanning appointments for her boss all the time.



:Imao: This profile looks so legit indeed.




There's no company or business called "Live Olive" here in Beirut, nor the University of Sussex.






So yeah.... I call BS.

I am not the only one noticing that in the world:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/comment ... _profiles/
https://www.quora.com/Does-Bumble-App-a ... attractive