Are Relationships Really That Great?!

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I keep thinking bad about myself because I don't have a Hunny, but then I listen to the relationships that my coworker nurses are in and I just want to run for the hills and never think about men again!

One just had a baby and had been with her "Hunny" for years. She is now in school full time, works full time and all he can do is give her hell. They are not married and he can't even be trusted to take care of the baby when she's at work! He's acting like a 2 yr old!

My friend Julia works about 70 hrs a week and her now husband hasn't been able to find a job for over 3 yrs! He's not trying. And she does most of the work at home - even with the kid they had together.

Another nurse I work with keeps going back to her ex-husband even after he tried to strangle and kill her! Wth?! He's lucky he's not with me cause is shoot him a new A-Hole!

And still another nurse ended her marriage for her best guy friend and now he's with his gf (who he was supposed to break up with) on a vacation. My nurse friend is still shocked.

Are there any long marriages out there that don't have strangling and fighting and cheating involved? Or maybe I should just keep going home to Waldo and counting my blessings? What ever happened to true love, or is there even such a thing?

Statistically the U.S. divorce rate is at an all time high.

The amount of 'single persons' as a household type is also at an all time high in the U.S., Australia and parts of Europe.

The birth rate is at an all time low in the U.S., parts of Europe and multiple other places.

Still, it is better to have a moderate amount of short-term relationships from age 12-18, then about 2-5 long term relationships from age 18-30, then to be married with children at about age 30 only to be divorced by about age 50, than it is to be miserably single and lonely from age 12 to age 50 and even afterwards until the day you die.

In my opinion.

A happy 4 year relationship and 19 year marriage only for the last year to be dysfunctional and filled with fights only to be divorced is certainly worth it.

The stats are true.

Lemme find 'em.

U.S. birth rate: http://statchatva.org/2016/07/06/the-u- ... bad-thing/

U.S. single rate: http://www.pri.org/stories/2014-09-14/s ... good-thing

European birth rate: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2015/ ... n-disaster

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldne ... ation.html

Australian single rate: https://aifs.gov.au/publications/demogr ... ving-alone

Japan's 'population crisis' due to having one of the world's lowest fertility, oldest people, and a slowly declining birth rate: http://theweek.com/articles/453219/ever ... ion-crisis

Personally, I feel that my relationship with my husband really is that great.

But relationships for the sake of it? No.

Get into a relationship with the perfect person for you, when they come along. Don't strive for a relationship with a 'someone' in general.

I think relationships last longer if you marry later in life. I think that's statistically correct.

However, I think this would be only with single people on their first marriage - marrying late. If divorced before, chance of second divorce and third divorces increase.

Nah, not really

Just to clear up any confusion, I was saying 'not really' to your original question in the title of this thread. I wasn't questioning what you said in your last comment

Oh. Okie dokie. I've been thinking about things alot tonight (slow night at work) and I think I've come to the conclusion that I'll never get married. It's just too bad I don't believe in flings or one night stands. I haven't found one person tonight who is really happy in their marriage. Depressing.

It's gotta be with the times we live in because there were never that many divorces in the early days. I just don't understand what the problem is. Maybe I should become Amish. Hmm.

I've found myself pondering the same question rather often, especially lately after falling just short of landing a long-distance relationship. I'm in my early 20s now, and I've found myself enjoying life without a significant other. In all honesty, while I do hope that I get to experience a romantic relationship, at the same time, I feel slightly afraid of the expectations it brings with it.

Being an introvert, I require my daily dose of alone time. That's what mainly concerns me in regards to relationships. I'd want my partner to understand my need for solitude and give me my personal space. If she doesn't, I'm calling it quits ASAP.

And then there's my AS, so... Yeah.

A lot of NT women will probably have a problem with that. They won't understand your need for alone time if they don't understand Aspergers.