Why do girls do this?

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I downloaded Meet Me on recommendation from my therapist and paid for some coins so my messages would get noticed. One girl actually responded to me and thanked me for adding her as a friend but when I tried to strike up a conversation, she didn't respond at all. Why do girls do this? I kept things casual since it feels more natural to me to get to know someone first but apparently even girls don't want that.

Maybe she was being polite? Seems more likely than her purposely trying to discombobulate you for kicks.

Agreed... for many people it is a politeness thing to send a "thank you for adding me" and neither want or expect any type of further communication. I think it's like how people say "Hi, how are you" and expect you should and would only say "Good, thanks." and maybe add an "How are you?" after that. It's not necessarily an invitation to further communicate... maybe just an acknowledgement or a nice thing to do. I dunno. It seems weird to me, but I know people do things like that to be nice. It also seems weird from a place called meet me. How are you supposed to know who wants to communicate with you if sending a message really means do not respond? And why would anyone go on a thing called meet me if they were not up for meeting people? Oh people... always confusing me... heh.

It's not just girls that do this.

It happens on Facebook all the time.

You add someone as a friend, and they say, "Thanks for the add."

Then you never hear from them again.

I think half of these people just like to have a large number of "friends" because the bigger the number, the more popular they feel.

I was about to say the same thing. I think with most social media, some people are friend collectors. Perhaps it's the same way with these dating sites? I don't know, as I never went on them. I felt too timid to even try, since the one I did join I had a bad experience on... some people think the more people they collect, the better they look in other people's eyes, for some reason. That is why they do it. I think it's sad, truthfully.

I feel like the app is a total waste. Just the same stuff I went through on dating sites. I'm starting to feel like I should just give up.

Yes, there are women who just like to pad their friend lists.

When I was in college, the old fashioned version of dating sites back then never worked for me either - and nobody had a clue about AS back then.

The only girl's my age I meet through family are other family, except for a 16 year old and 15 year old daughters of two of my Mum's different friends.

The 16 y/o lives too far away, the 15 y/o is cute and nice but...too young.

I have 4 'friends' - my best friend who lives about 2 hours away in a small town, and has no female friends except for one online who he is planning to meet one day.

I have two male friends half the country away. They don't know any girls our age.

Finally, I actually do have one female friend, she's N.T. and decently social.

BUT, she was kicked out of home and had to move to the other side of the country to stay with her sis because she's got nowhere nearby she can live.

She has a decent number of friends it appears, but they're all in our hometown, which neither of us still live there (I moved 4hrs away months ago).

So, my entire social life consists of these scattered friendships I'm desperately trying to hold onto, but all of them are hanging by a thread, except for my best friend. But it's only a matter of time the distance between us makes us lose touch with each other.

For the last year or so, we barely know what to ever talk about anymore, and both don't have much going on in our lives.

I use to volunteer, but it was a thrift store, outside of school hours, and most of the customers were not in my age range. Not even young women 18-20, it was mostly just elderly women or mother/young kid families.

Even if I do volunteer again or get a job, I prefer to work in peaceful and relaxed environments.

For example, I'd rather work in a quiet thrift store with elderly customers than a trendy young people's clothes store with loud music and lots of immature teenagers running around.

University is my last hope, but I don't know what I want to do yet.

And I definitely don't want to make the wrong decision.

Sly is right.

I personally think cold approaching, that is approaching random stranger women and attempting to get to know them when out and about, should be a last resort. But for many of us, it IS one of our only possible options of meeting women, or even anyone, at all.

She had an "attitude of gratitude." Women in particular are conditioned by society to be polite. We are taught to "say 'please' and 'thank you,'" to be agreeable, to exude happiness and pleasantness by smiling at everyone we meet. When I've walked down the street with a neutral expression, men I've passed on the street whom I have never met have told me to smile or have asked me why I am not smiling. They've become offended if I haven't returned their greeting because they feel I am obligated to do so regardless of how I feel. So to answer your question, she said "thank you" because you did something that was nice or would have benefited her and that's what women are taught to do. It was the automatic response of a woman who is "nice."