That's why you men must sometimes say NO

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That girl "W" again:
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"D" is the one who tried to matchmake me with her.

A conversation between her and her colleague, while I was present in the same room.

W: My new boyfriend is so forgiving, every time I yell at him and argue, he forgives me.
D: Yes, but you can't always do that.
Me (in mind): (...)

W: I am simply short tempered, but he's so easygoing with me anyway.
Me (in mind): (wtf I am hearing...)
D: Dear, I was like you - but you can't always be that hard headed
Me (in mind): (Good, some reason..)

W: He always apologizes to me next day, even when I am totally wrong.
D: Hmmm..
Me(in mind): (What a spineless asslicker...)

It's a double-edged sword, though. If you constantly appease a woman at your own expense, you're spineless. If you stand your ground, you're a heartless misogynist.

What works best for me is letting nearly everything go, simply because I really don't have strong opinions on many things. For the few things I do feel strongly about--no, I DON'T feel I need to bend to her will and will choose being right over being happy every time. Certain people may label me some expletive for not being respectful, but I don't care.

There was a study some years ago that had men agreeing with everything their wives said. What they discovered over the course of the study was that women's attitudes towards their mates deteriorated resulting in them becoming increasingly demanding and resentful. The relationships suffered, and not every couple was able to complete the study.

The simple fact is that having an opposing position to a SO is just part of you being yourself. By refusing to disagree, your SO loses part of the person he or she found initially attractive. The dynamic of the relationship shifts in such a way that the "alpha" will try to mold and shape or train the other and remain unsatisfied with the results, while the other has to endure abuse in silence. The takeaway? It really is better to be right than happy!

Actually the No in the title is referring to the No when she asked me out.

In brief: it's good to reject a woman sometimes, if there's a good reason.

Don't date loonies with bad tempers. Got it.

I should have read the link first. My mistake.

I think you did the right thing. I feel kinda sorry for the guy she's seeing, though. Once you end up with a crazy person, it's hard to get away. Steer clear.