Shooting Myself in the Foot?

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I keep saying that I don't think I'll ever get a girlfriend, but a week ago somebody actually reached out to me via an ad I put on Craigslist. She seemed nice enough, but what really threw me for a loop was how she actually seemed desperate to date me. I asked her why she was so convinced *I* was the one out of the hundreds of other ads CL has up, and she just said she had a good feeling. She went on to say that I was the only one she wanted, she wouldn't talk to any other boys. And we'd only exchanged emails at that point, we hadn't even talked on the phone. And then, most surprisingly of all, she wanted me to come pick her up and have sex with her- the first night we were talking to each other! I don't know why, but that was a huge red flag for me. I kept thinking, I'm a seriously screwed up individual. Nobody in their right mind would want me, they'd settle for me. Anyone this desperate to be with me must be even more screwed up than I am. So I deleted the ad, blocked her email address, blocked her phone number, and never spoke to her again. Was that the right thing to do? I mean, on one hand that was probably the only woman on earth who would actually be eager to date me. On the other, being asked to immediately jump in bed with someone and then start dating them just seems... I don't know, messed up. What do you guys think? Was I right, or am I just shooting myself in the foot?

Also, because I know somebody's going to ask, no she wasn't even that attractive.

I agree with you that asking to sleep with you on the first date was a huge red flag but in my opinion I don't think the blocking was necessary. Perhaps you could have talked about how this made you uncomfortable and you would prefer to get to know her better. If she wouldn't listen to that though that's when you should have blocked her.

Yeah that is what I think, just seems a little harsh to stop talking someone and block all contact before gauging the situation a bit further...like seeing if she'd respect having sex on the first date would make you uncomfortable and slow things down a wee bit, or if she'd try to pressure and manipulate in which case cutting contact would be best. But kind blocked her before you could find that out.

I guess we have no way of knowing but I'd be really suspicious of response like that off Craigslist, lots of scammers out in the world.

And this is why scammers keep on scamming....some people can't see a scam no matter how obvious it is.

I don't think it was a scam. I did get her phone number, talked to her briefly, and then looked her up on Facebook. She's a real person. She even gave me an address to come pick her up at. Not sure how she was going to scam me, or what she could be trying to get.

I agree with this. Perhaps you can still talk to her, dunno.

It looks like a boobie trap.

Pun intended?

Or worse. Been a few cases of people being lured in y sex then getting mugged or killed.

Of course.

Who farted?

I smell something stinky.

Be careful. There are many online articles that can you help you determine whether
someone you meet online is real or a fraud.

I feel like if she was trying to scam me, she would have pictures of more attractive women. Like I said, the ones she sent and the ones she had on Facebook were not very flattering.

Were they flattening?

If it's not a scam and she's not an 'escort' or anything then I would probably stay even further away from this person, I'm sorry for being prejudice against women who want to bang random guys off craigslist but I can't imagine anybody you'd actually want to be with doing that and there are far better places to find hookups than craigslist so I'd be highly suspicious of this person. Unclean and unbalanced is not a good a good combination.