Ever been in love?

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Have you ever been in love? Are you in love right now? What did it feel like to you, how did you know it was love?

Just interested really. I am aware I have some emotional difficulties, social ones certainly, but I don't think this negates the possibility of love, just maybe threatens the possibility of it working as an actual relationship. I have been in love exactly once, and I never got to find out if it would have worked.

I think I have a tiny bit of experience with undeclared love, most unlikely to be requited, mainly because I'm sure my love interests considered me mentally defective. Of course, I don't know if that was actual love. It was in my teens, and then no more.

I have a few times, actually experiencing a crush right now, (on my older brother's best friend).

You know when you know. Haven't you seen Jerry McGuire? LOL. Seriously though. At a certain point you just know you love somebody. There is no logical progression of thoughts that lead to it. It's sort of like a light turning on. Suddenly it's there, inside you, and you just know it.

If you're not sure if you love somebody, you don't love them. If you need to or want to rationalize your love for someone, you don't really love them.

Yep currently I mean we still have our struggle especially with my anxiety, depression and social issues, luckily he is a pretty understanding guy.

For me it's like always having someone on your team who supports you and who yu support. It's being able to do nothing while your together and still be happy. It's being sad and lonely cause you can't see them very much. Most of all to me it's being able to be my weird and crazy self around him and him still loving me despite all my bad points.

This is going to be really sappy but I realised I loved him when I was sad he wasn't there and suddenly loves songs made sense. It made me realise my previous unrequited loves and flings were not comparable

I am really sorry if it sounds sappy I'm just trying to explain my experience

Not sappy at all. It means you dig the guy

I've been "in love" a few times. It's a combination of a gentle sexual feeling and a feeling of a desire for long-term companionship. You feel like you're in communion with that person. It's much more than that, really. Many times, the feeling of "love" can't be put into direct words. That's why we have poetry and song.

A "not-so-gentle" sexual feeling (i.e., a sense of desperately wanting to make love with that person) occurs within what I would call "lust."

But I have not experienced feeling like I want to be around a person 24 hours, 7 days a week. I'm too independent for my own good, perhaps.

I've been in love once. But it's not a feeling I can easily describe. It was a chaotic glob of emotions, some positive and others less so.

Thanks for sharing guys, I know it's a tricky one to put into words. If I had to describe it it would probably be through a picture instead, or just a colour even

I know I have because even though the circumstances were very sad, I only ever feel happy about the person. And it takes a lot to make me genuinely happy.

No, I have never been "in" love. I've loved, and I love. I've been loved, and I am loved. I've touched and been touched by others. Yet, I have never been in love, and I highly doubt that anybody has been in love with me. I've never really been with anybody, never really dated, never courted or been courted, none of it. I used to be insecure about it but now, what's the point?

Short answer, no, I have never been in love.

I abandoned all such notions when I was around 15 and realized I would never fit with the social world around me, thus "love" was out of the equation, due to it being a social skill and all. I love my dog, I've grown accustomed to that and that's all I need.

^^^ I don't think it is a social skill necessarily, since it's more of a feeling. Expressing it and acting on it effectively are social skills, sure, but not actually being in love. Although it is true that a lack of socialisation would make it difficult to find love in the first place.

I have had several crushes on anime/video game characters [most of them pretty girls or guys who look like girls], and have only been in love once. But then, I am love.

yes very much so !

Hmmm, Love... I think again its subjective to each individual, there are no rules in love in my view. Some fall for people with similar interests, some fall for people that are total opposites, some sleep together, some have separate rooms/beds. Its like comparing apples and oranges.
For me its as hard as hell to explain in feelings! lol ( im sure many will agree on that one here! lol) but as best as i can for myself i Have felt deeply towards someone in the past or persons/plural) However to have that mutually returned i dont think i have yet experienced so i would class it as maybe falling in love as to me to be 'In Love' i think needs to be on a mutual case, therefore you are truly feeling love.
When people ask , 'What is your type?'. I truly cannot answer as i dont necessarily fall for people because of their initial looks. Some years ago i almost married someone i wasn't physically attracted to, but it was someone that 'seemed' to understand me and accept me. Also seemed to be a very kind individual, but as the saying goes, 'Once behind closed doors!' Was a very different matter!. So for myself i think being with someone that i feel truly understands me and my quirks, someone that not only you feel comfortable around but someone that you can share your thoughts without any prejudice and feel comfortable talking about anything without fear of retribution, a best friend as well as a partner to me is important.

Someone that likes to talk at deep levels about life, humanity, wacky out there thoughts that people are generally too scared to talk about due to what society may perceive them to be because of how they may think. Someone that doesn't want to talk about rugby scores, or gossip about some poor local, someone that can stimulate my mind and soul. In Essence someone i can feel totally comfortable around and have them feel the same. Someone that if ill i can care for and visa versa, Mutual respect, Mutual understanding and mutual communication are important to me. Communication doesn't necessarily need to be verbal, as many here will attest that some find it easier to write things down. I hate confrontation and can often feel the negativity in the air when someone isn't willing to communicate but holds their thoughts creating an uncomfortable ambiance. Someone that isn't fixated with money or established statutes, someone that realizes the world we live in is more than working your arse off for the government to then be left on the kerb when they retire. Someone that appreciates life and nature. In essence i think most people are looking for extensions of themselves ( get as freudy as you want with that!).

Someone i can hug and hold close, to smell their sweetness as i nuzzle my nose against their neck taking in their natural sweet scent as they lie beside me.
So as mentioned some can relate to some of what i say and some will not at all, hence why it is subjective to each individual as there truly are no rules to how exactly one should feel with a partner. However as mentioned being in time to be able to feel comfortable around each other and be mutually understood creating a more deeper feeling of calm, a want to be with them and around them, someone that is true to me and to themselves. I would take a bullet for my partner and/or family without a second thought if such a case would arise.
A companion and a best friend ( someone that can you can share your bubble with)

^Very nicely put!

^^ I agree!