Adult Issue Question

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Having Kids.

Why if most people, who have disabilities, are born to two people who have no disabilities, told that they shouldn't have kids of their own?

People with disabilities I mean.

Has anyone in a relationship ever been told by a nerosychologist and has a disability, been told not to have kids?

It sounds belittling to me. What say you'all?

They are afraid that you will bring more people with "disabilities" into the world. Personally, I dont think it would be such a bad thing if their were more people with "disabilities" in the world. Afterall, there are many other abilities people in this world need, other than just being able to socialize and communicate. I think it's the NT people who need to learn other ways to communicate that autistic people will understand, rather trying to forcing autistic people into acting normal.

I just don't think I could see my future son/daughter suffer with AS like I have...
I eventually want kids but I'm afraid you know

I am scared to have kids because I am afraid I will pass on all my problems to them. Doc has never told me not to though.

The issue of kids has never been one that I've had to deal with, fortunately, but I've never been told not to bother.

I'm kinda torn on it, though - on the one hand I want to have little Luke, Ben, Gwen and Mary-Jane all playing together in the front room, but on the other I don't want to pass on to them what I've had to deal with my entire life. I don't think it'd be fair.

simple genetics...

edit: there's no way around this... but try to keep track of the BIG "X's" and the little "x's"

let the letter x = an allele that is the genetic code for a specific trait (gene); X alleles are dominant can can cover up the effect of x resessive alleles... this means you can either be XX or Xx and display the same trait effectively; whereas xx individuals display an alternate version of the gene. this is what i mean by saying that X covers up the effect of x expression.

so you have two x's for every gene and get one from each parent... so any one individual can have any of these combinations of alleles for any given trait: XX/Xx/xx and your expression for the gene depends on which combo of the alleles you have (the expression pattern follows what i stated above)

a lot of disorders arise from having 2 ressesive alleles( xx) for a gene that's involved in the disorder... they get one from each parent. however, the parents may not show the diorder cause they (each parent) have one ressesive allele and one dominant (normal) allele (Xx).... they too got one from each parent (so one parent gave them a good allele and the other gave them a bad allele).... this is a principle of genetic inheritance

if you have a disorder that arises from having two bad alleles (xx)... then you have a 100% chance of passing that bad allele onto your kid. so in order to pass the disorder onto your kid... you would only have to find a mate that has either one or two copies of that ressesive (bad) allele(they could be Xx or xx for the alleles of that disorder)... so, based off probability... if you know you have two bad alleles for a serious condition (xx)... it's recommended that you don't have kids or only have kids with someone who is screened and proven to have two copies (XX) of the good allele (so that when you two have kids and you pass on your bad allele... that your mate will pass on their good allele and your kid will have a mix of 1 good and 1 bad allele (Xx)... and the kid will not have the disorder cause they have a good copy to cover... but they again will have to be careful in finding a mate for THEIR kids)

i don't mean to mislead and say the ressesive "x" alleles are bad... but most alleles have a dominance competition for experssion in any gene...for the most part, disorders are ressive in nature cause think what would happen if the dominant allele gave rise to the disorder... there are dominant disorders, but most dominant disorders are fatal.

hope that helps

I wouldn't mind bringning more rebels into the world.

first of all i've never been told that but i do want kids when i'm older but i'm scared because i wouldn't know what to do when i'm prgrent and the birth and all that. do you understand what i'm saying

the idea of having kids lost me at the "birthing"

omg /cringe