Is he trying to stay out of it?

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So, last year I dated a customer for a bit from the bar I worked at. Everyone used to joke that he was a "psychopath". It fell apart because i assumed he was a jerk from the get go and was not in a good place. I have recently realized based off of our interactions and his medication that he might actually be austistic.

I stopped working at this place and visited early this year. Long story short one of my old coworkers sexually assaulted me and everyone there is siding with him. (I reported it, before anyone makes a snide comment, lol). I messaged the customer on Facebook, let's call him Chris. I told him what happened and sent him screenshots of the guy basically admitting that he did it. He responded and asked for more screenshots/ clarification. I responded.
He read my message and didn't respond. I got upset and messaged Chris a couple more times. I wasn't mean or anything but I did tell him to block me and said that I still have feelings for him. All he does is read them and he won't block me. I'm a bit confused. I get that he might want to stay out of it, but him reading the messages and not responding/ not blocking me doesn't make much sense to me.
This is a really bad situation and I should probably refrain from caring about what he thinks...

I'm really bummed right along with you having read that.

A friend of mine just quit the café/bar I frequent & I can't imagine it's an easy spot (I'll be checking in).

I think he's trying to give you space before it's a necessity. For guys in any impulsive frame of mind this topic is really sensitive. Patience is just more dignified than most of the alternatives for many with AS.

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Its possible that he hasn't blocked me so he can show my messages to people at the bar. Or he thinks I'm lying. I don't know what to do...I guess there's really nothing I can do.
Thanks for your response

AS or not, if he's a regular guy (not sketchy) he could also be hoping to be more informed before saying or doing anything further. I feel like online 'blocks' are a hedge against public expression (I work on software); one person in my life ever blocked me, she remains my favorite person in the world & since then we simply keep up in person. The internet remains only a dialogue no matter how expository so I think you should try other messaging services because in some ways that literally can be a blank slate every time you see another brand on the icon.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

That's true. He might be waiting until it gets resolved in court I guess. I miss him!

As a guy though I don't see any problem with seeking company or help from everyone you know.

_________________
"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

It feels like my soul is being ripped apart. Im fine when I'm at work or doing something, but when I'm not the memories come back. I guess I just need to stop thinking about it.

I can't for the life of me properly text this girl I love (NT I guess) & still we keep seeing each other / cautiously reacquainting. We learned & agreed that we throw around too many anxieties through electronic communication so I think I'm very fortunate to know in a direct personal way it's not a big deal to see a blank screen. Try to remind yourself how much determination is needed to use IM with a level head.

So I had a slow Friday night; I'm immensely relieved to know the full meaning of those messages will be landing in the right spot eventually.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

IMO it would be wise not to keep a lid on tough conversations. You already said some of what you needed to, which opens up a lot of tangents that don't involve sadness & Facebook.

_________________
"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

Reassert yourself I say. Just be safe.

_________________
"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos