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08 Jan 2018, 1:52 pm

To Everyone that wants a girlfriend or a boyfriend don't feel sorry for yourself.

Don't get upset, angry. How can you be happy with a girlfriend when your unhappy without one. You have to live your life. Look there is a big world out there that is ready for you to explore, fine hobbies, go to college, do more studying, learn to drive a car. Learn to cook.

Do Anything but don't feel sorry for yourself in front of a computer screen.

You know what, I'm single, but I live my life, I go to college, I go to the gym, I am going to learn to drive. I go to football matches. I will meet the person I love one day but you know what, I am happy and that is all that matters.

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08 Jan 2018, 1:59 pm

"Don't feel this, don't feel that" is never a good advice. You don't control your feelings. You can choose to act or not act upon them.
Don't act upon your feeling sorry for yourself if you want to improve your relationships.
Sort out your life so you are happy enough with yourself before getting a partner – yes.

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08 Jan 2018, 2:23 pm

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You rock, kiddo! :-)

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08 Jan 2018, 3:29 pm

This is the most sensible thread that I've seen in L&D in years. Also, the best way to meet people is by getting out and doing things.

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08 Jan 2018, 6:46 pm

magz wrote:

While the word choices weren't perfect, he nailed the concept.

Glad to know you are living, Autistic123.

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09 Jan 2018, 12:34 am

magz wrote:

Not everyone is able to sort out their life.

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09 Jan 2018, 7:13 am

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11 Jan 2018, 10:02 am

^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^

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11 Jan 2018, 10:17 am

sly279 wrote:

magz wrote:

Not everyone is able to sort out their life.

Don't delude yourself a relationship would do it for you. It wouldn't.
The Cinderella fairy tale has done a lot of damage to our mentality.

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11 Jan 2018, 10:46 am

autistic123 wrote:

You know what, I'm single, but I live my life, I go to college, I go to the gym, I am going to learn to drive. I go to football matches. I will meet the person I love one day but you know what, I am happy and that is all that matters.

What if you drive, go to college, go to sporting events, and still feel lonely? I feel like happiness is only real when shared :/

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11 Jan 2018, 1:24 pm

SportsGamer35728 wrote:

autistic123 wrote:

What if you drive, go to college, go to sporting events, and still feel lonely? I feel like happiness is only real when shared :/

I think happiness must be better when shared. I can't guarantee I'll ever meet anyone to share with though, so I need to do my best to provide as much happiness to myself as possible. I have observed happier people tend to attract other people to them more than unhappy people do too.

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11 Jan 2018, 1:26 pm

For a history buff, there's a heck of a lot of history to enjoy out there....

And much new scholarship.

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11 Jan 2018, 1:30 pm

^That's true. I'm going to get out more.

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11 Jan 2018, 2:46 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:

I have observed happier people tend to attract other people to them more than unhappy people do too.

Quote:

Solitude
BY ELLA WHEELER WILCOX

Laugh, and the world laughs with you;
Weep, and you weep alone;
For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth,
But has trouble enough of its own.
Sing, and the hills will answer;
Sigh, it is lost on the air;
The echoes bound to a joyful sound,
But shrink from voicing care.

Rejoice, and men will seek you;
Grieve, and they turn and go;
They want full measure of all your pleasure,
But they do not need your woe.
Be glad, and your friends are many;
Be sad, and you lose them all,—
There are none to decline your nectared wine,
But alone you must drink life’s gall.

Feast, and your halls are crowded;
Fast, and the world goes by.
Succeed and give, and it helps you live,
But no man can help you die.
There is room in the halls of pleasure
For a large and lordly train,
But one by one we must all file on
Through the narrow aisles of pain.

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13 Jan 2018, 9:39 am

SportsGamer35728 wrote:

autistic123 wrote:

What if you drive, go to college, go to sporting events, and still feel lonely? I feel like happiness is only real when shared :/

If you feel like happiness is only real when shared thats why you are lonely. You have to be happy alone and have fun. Live your life. How can you expect to be happy with someone. What if she needs a break or something or if she wants time alone with her friends?

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14 Jan 2018, 8:50 am

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

magz wrote:

Not everyone is able to sort out their life.

Don't delude yourself a relationship would do it for you. It wouldn't.
The Cinderella fairy tale has done a lot of damage to our mentality.

A realtionship really did help me sort my life out. I was very lonely when single cuz I didn't have anyone in my life who really understood, related or accepted me cuz of my many issues & disabilities. I was trapped living with my parents because my vision is too bad for me to drive & my SSI was not enough for me to afford living on my own. I was doing my best to find a job but my disabilities made it pretty rough. I posted aLOT here about being lonely & my problems finding someone. Cass sent me a message after reading a lot of my posts & like me she also has some disabilities & issues & was wanting someone to accept her the way she was. We met up after a few months & after a couple more times of meeting up, I moved from Louisiana to Vermont to be with her. I no longer feel trapped living with my parents & I'm very happy I found someone to share my life wtih.

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